How to recover from an intense break-up pain?

Most of us are aware of the break-up pain; some of us have faced it or we have witnessed it with our friends and loved ones. Some of us have tried to support our friends to overcome their painful post-break-up phase. But heartache can sometimes turn extremely unbearable, hence Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo, (an Eminent Relationship Counsellor in Delhi) suggests some tips that you can follow yourself or you can suggest your friend or loves ones if they are passing through a break-up.

a.   Don't do self-torture; it’s inevitable that memory about your ex will keep flashing time and again but do not try to entertain them with activities like – flipping through photo album (pic with your ex), visiting the restaurant where you regularly had meal with your ex, keep bringing out your ex’s gifts from closet. Instead, try to put yourself in situations that will cheer you up like – shopping, eating ice-cream, hang out with your best friend.

b.  Don’t panic: unfortunately, the older we get the more we become insecure about our relationship, post-breakup in 30’s may bring fear in mind - what if I never find someone? What if that was my last chance? Will I be ever able to love someone else? Remember, fear are self-prophesies, the more you think about the fears the more chances that you may be subconsciously leading your life to fulfil your fear.  Instead, let your life take these decisions for you.

c.  Keep confronting the truth that romantic relationship is one of the fundamental sources of happiness and joy in your life, BUT they are NOT the only source of joy. If a relationship isn't working, you have made the decision to break it off and you should move on in your life







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