For those who are wondering if it’s right time or when it will be the right time to plan your marital life, marriage counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo suggests everyone to answer the following questions to decide if they are ready or not, to get married:-
1. First ask why you want to get married?
Be honest and evaluate the reasons behind your engagement. You can list your pros and cons of a marriage. The major issues that come up are about the loss of freedom in marriage. You have to account for the other person in all your decisions. There will be more family obligations when you are married. Ask yourself if you are ready for these challenges?
2. Similarly, note down the things you are missing being single.
On the other hand, wanting a spouse to support you through life's ups and downs is a big motivation for marriage. Also, having a steady companion for meals and leisure time seems to be high on the list "for" marriage. It is up to you to weigh the pros and the cons and to figure out if the scales tip towards or away from the marriage.
3. Thirdly make sure you know your partner’s background?
The best predictor of future behaviour is relevant past behaviour. Learn from it - how has your partner behaved in his/ her past relationships? How she/he has behaved with you? What has your partner learned about marriage from his/her parents? Look closely and evaluate all this prior to deciding whether to spend your whole life with a person or not.
4. Don’t marry thinking that your partner will change post marriage
If there is something that bothers you about your partner, try to resolve it prior getting married. Don’t marry your significant other and think they will change post marriage. Remember, making a major commitment won’t change anyone, so don’t expect the marriage to change your relationship, either. A wedding is not going to heal a major rift between you.