Whether you are just thinking about getting engaged or your wedding is in next 3 months, the best time to work on your marriage is before it starts. Too often “getting married” feels like we are moving into a major destination of life and the magical relationship should take place that we have been searching for. But marriage isn’t the end of dating… it’s the beginning of a brand new chapter of your life. Here are some reasons that you should try a premarital coach, suggests marriage counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo.
- Premarital counselling helps couples to develop effective communication style and conflict resolution skills – essential for a healthy marriage. In today’s lifestyle, the scope of a husband and a wife to spend quality time with each other has reduced drastically. Couples must learn to communicate with each other effectively because the comprehensiveness of mistakes and learning in marital life today has compressed in the last one decade.
- Premarital counselling helps a couple to understand and learn how to safeguard their relationship from any external influence of friends, family, kids or even partner’s old habits and lifestyles.
- It helps couples to gain insight into hidden aspects of their partner’s character and how they should deal with it effectively.
- The counseling also helps couples to explore and identify their individual expectations from their career/work and identify - how work at home should be distributed or balanced – who will take charge of cooking, cleaning, garbage, driving, shopping? Remember, MIND READING IS NOT AN OPTION!
- The counselling helps partners to identify each other’s financial aspects; for example their individual spending habits, financial ambitions, standpoint towards saving etc. The premarital coach also explores some sensitive financial issues with the couple like - what would be the rules around small or large purchases? Will both the partner seek each other’s permission? Who will continue earning when they start a family?