Habits That Kill Your Confidence

Have you ever wondered about a situation in life– when you went to an important meeting or interview, well-prepared, still you fail to give a confident handshake or a smile, conveying an unnecessary bad impression? These incidences may indicate that you are suffering from lack of self-confidence, deep down in your surface.

Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo shares that the best way to develop self-confidence is not to act confident or to depend on mental diversions but to get rid of the unhealthy mental habits. Here are some unknown habits that can kill self-confidence:-

Being Perfectionist


Being perfectionist can act both for and against the person. It can improve life skills like ability to scrutinize, revise and to maintain mental alertness for a task on the same time too much of perfectionism can develop conditional self-esteem.  People tend to like themselves when they do well and they forget that nobody can do well, all the time.

To combat perfectionism, person should try to get rid of the “shoulds” and give themselves credit for trying. They should stop seeing mistakes as a disaster and should try to focus on the bigger picture and find more compassionate ways to view the situation.

Thinking about Failure


Some people develop a mental habit to look at life through the lenses of failure.  Such a mental habit acts like a self-fulfilling prophecy. The person may start to act in an insecure manner that doesn’t inspire the confidence of potential bosses or customers, or they may start do a careless job because they know their work isn’t good anyway.  To overcome a mind-set of failure the person needs to start accepting that every new opportunity in life is a fresh start and it holds a chance to learn from previous mistakes and act differently.
  

People-pleasing & self-judging through other’s lenses


Some people develop mind-sets to please everybody and overvaluing others' opinions at the cost of their own time, energy, and self-esteem. With time these people develop bad mental habit of constantly judging themselves through other’s eyes and in demanding situations they turn over conscious and fearful.





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