Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo today finds the most common cause of couples seeking relationship counselling is Infidelity. Infidelity can create havoc in a beautiful relationship- it commonly signifies a crisis in a marital or in a pre-marital relationship, some can repair the damage done; turn an infidelity into an opportunity for growth and reconnection. And some can’t, the loss of trust being irreparable for one, the continued anger and blame becomes intolerable for the other
So what leads to affairs?
1. Emotional
Generally the most commonly cause of infidelity is a sense of emotional disconnection from a partner. The person committing the infidelity will often describe having felt unappreciated, lonely, and sad. These emotions can often lead to the secondary feelings of anger and resentment. Emotional roots can lead to affairs both emotional and physical in nature. An emotional affair may start off looking like a friendship, but over the time, the level of intimacy increases and more personal information, especially that relating to dissatisfaction and unhappiness in their primary relationship, can become an integral part of the dynamic.
2. Physical relationship
In some case, infidelity is caused by unsatisfied physical relationship. A poor sex life phase post marriage generally caused from many factors like – professional work pressure, commitments towards children, childbirth environmental factors etc.
It’s important that in such case, both the partners should communicate openly with each other, take deliberate time out for their schedule for a romantic getaways or for a warm dinner. In such a situation partner should value their relationship more than their personal desires, feeling, and physical requirements.
3. Perceive affairs as quick fix
Many a time people perceive affairs as distractions, partners go for affairs to kill boredom or to add spark forgetting that it may become a “quick fix” but will definitely bring long-term consequences no matter they agree or not.
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