A human being is generally conditioned to his/her environment and situations. Unfortunate situations like bad health, strained relationships, financial issues or personal loss can turn your colleagues, neighbours or friend’s behaviour unpleasant and negative. In a satiation where you have to deal with such a person every day then what you will do; will you avoid, ignore or confront the person? Likely in all these three options you will lose your peace of mind. Today Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo share tips on how to deal with people who are negative or unpleasant.
1. Resist the urge of being judgemental. Generally, the first urge that comes to mind if someone is unpleasant to us is to be judgemental; we tell ourselves that the person is an idiot, jerk, nonsense etc. Remember tagging the person may give you momentary comfort from the insult but if you have to deal with the person every day, such a judgement will just make the things get worse day by day.
2. Be compassionate but also be firm: Show your compassion but at the same time don't let yourself taken for granted. If the negative person talks to you rudely, you can tell him/her that "I do understand the tough condition you are going through, but you are hurting all those people who have nothing to do with this condition by expressing negative words". This might help the negative person to analyze his/her actions and on the same time you can safeguard your peace.
3. Avoid interaction when it is required: The capability to listen compassionately and not to react on to negative words and thoughts need a lot of mental energy. Hence, try to avoid to interact with the negative person when you are tired, feeling upset or angry on something else.
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