Mistakes Most People Make At the beginning of Their Relationships

Many among us have bitter experiences in life, where we have found a wonderful person, who seemed all perfect, understood us and the relationship started on a wonderful note. Then all of sudden everything falls apart and we were left wondering what went wrong, was it a wrong understanding or we did something wrong in the beginning of the relationship.

Today Shivani Misri Sadhoo, eminent relationship counsellor and psychologist shares some of the most common mistakes people make at the beginning of their relationship.

1. Put a hold on your enthusiasm

The first thing you should do in the beginning of your relationship is to cut your enthusiasm. Even if inside you are jumping with joy because you have found someone wonderful, who can understand you; hold back on the celebrations until the relation gets the chance to develop really deep. Except telling your family or a family member (who can help you with their experience and has a better understand of life), avoid posting status updates on the social network, telling all your friends about your new boyfriend / girlfriend may leave you feeling foolish if things don’t work out.  To look foolish to close ones is not that big risk but it may change their perception about you, especially in the work place, they may start perceiving you as immature, not a good decision maker, which might not be true.

2. Give the other person some space to breathe

In the early phase of the relationship, it turns to tempting to be in touch with your new mate all day and all night, you may feel like calling or texting him or her now and them. Remember, too much contact can easily stifle a new love. There needs to be time and space for you to miss each other, to look forward with excited anticipation to the next call or date – if calls and texts are coming every five minutes what is there to look forward to? There is something lovely about being told that you were on someone’s mind all week but there is no need for you to contact each other with every passing thought.

3. Don’t neglect the rest of your life

One of the biggest mistakes people make at the beginning of a relationship is casting aside the rest of their life and devoting all their time and attention to their new love interest. Remember that your match was attracted to you for who you are, that includes your professional / academic views, your friends, your hobbies, your work dedication etc.