MARRIAGE COUNSELLING: SIGNS YOU MIGHT NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP

Enjoying a prolonged beautiful marital life over the decades might seem unrealistic to many people, people believe with passing of time husband and wife cannot be the same way as it was in their first 6 months of marriage. But that is not the truth, when people maintain their cars , they get it serviced once in 6 months or in a year, so that  the wear and tear caused from running the car every day, get fixed. Much like a cars that gets eroded, scratched and dented from constant use, relationships can also show wear and tear over the years. So how do you know if your marriage has hit a rough patch or it's something more serious and require a professional help?

Shivani Misri Sadhoo, an eminent marriage counsellor, South Delhi shares the signs that you might need professional help to rejuvenate your marital life.

1.  There is a decrease in intimacy with your spouse and there is a sudden change of sexual attitude. Either the absence or sudden decrease can be a signal of danger. Most couples feel that when there is a loss of intimacy, there are problems. While this is true, it is also important to be mindful of a sudden increase of sexual activity of your partner. If all of sudden your partner starts showing too much interest in sexual activities, that you feel is sudden and not that normal, it could indicate that he/she is experiencing feeling of arousal that are not originating from his relationship with you.

2.  When Communication between couples weakens, it starts a situation where both or either of the partner holds on their view or opinion with a fear that a discussion might escalate to a fight. It is the time for the couples to seek professional help, else the situation may simply degrade with each passing day. 

3. Disagreements over money are one of the top reasons couples find themselves in conflicting situations  If your spouse keeps you in the dark about family finances or feels the need to control everything related to money, it may be time to speak up. If your spouse objects your need to discuss the same or takes your opinion for granted , it’s time to see a counsellor.