We all need
friends in our bad, good, confused, pained… possibly in every phase, to make
our life’s journey, emotionally smooth. But if everyone seeks good friends in
life then why is it so that some people get wonderful friends and some remains
deprived of good friends.
Relationship counselor, Shivani Misri Sadhoo share that
friendship is not just about receiving and taking emotional support, it is the ability to develop and nurture a strong bond with himself/herself first and
then with another person. Psychologist Shivani shares that everyone is capable
of developing themselves into better friends and experience and enjoy special
friendship bond all throughout their lives. These ways are:-
1. Sometimes people believe that being with their friend means being completely
carefree. It is true that with friends , we can act freely and /or just be
ourselves but that does not mean we can take our friends for granted. When you
talk to your friend pay attention not only what s/he is saying but also to
his/her body language including his/her voice. He/She may say that
he/she's fine but his/her voice and posture may indicate otherwise. If you feel
that the words and the body language are inconsistent then and ask your friend
how he/she is really feeling or what is bothering him/her.
2. Try never to use assumptions in friendship: if your friend has
suffered a major grief or loss in his/her life and after some time he/she comes
back to the office and starts speaking normally, do not assume that he/she is
out of their grief too soon. The grief could be just there but your friend
might have learned to hide and suppress it.
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