Relationship Trouble? Don't worry; identify these signs in your relationship to seek marriage counselling on time.

When you face troubles in your marriage or in a relationship it not only you but your partner too suffers, day after day. Some of you may accept it as your fate or live with it to believe that your partner has simply changed over the time or the situation has changed and or your marital life is drying up.

But that is not true, differences in relationships generally arise from communication gap, lifestyle changes , situational immaturity and miss-understanding and that sometimes gets snowballed into an intense fight, accusing & insulting each other and gradually distancing themselves from their partner. Delhi’s eminent Marriage Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo say that instead of keep on trying yourself & failing and accepting your defeat and suffering, couples should bring an expert into their relationship.

Marriage counselling is a type of therapy where a married couple works with a therapist to identify, discuss, explore and hopefully resolve different issues happening within a relationship. It is designed to “treat” the marriage. Part of the therapeutic process involves identifying what is working right in the relationship and building upon the good. Hence, marriage counseling is goal focused and solution oriented.

Here are the signs in your relationship or marriage that you should seek a help from a relationship counsellor:

1. Communication has become negative. Once the communication between the partners has deteriorated, often it is difficult to get it going back in the right direction. Negative communication can include anything that leaves one partner feeling depressed, insecure, disregarded, or wanting to withdraw from the conversation. This can also include the tone of the conversation. Negative communication can also include any communication that not only leads to hurt the feelings but emotional or physical abuse, as well as nonverbal communication.

2. When couples become more like roommates than a married couple. It does not mean if the couple isn’t doing everything together they are in trouble. If there is a lack of communication, conversation and intimacy or any other elements the couple feels are important and they feel they just “co-exist,” this may be an indication that a skilled clinician can help sort out what is missing and how to get it back.

3. When couples say, we know what’s wrong, but we just don’t know how to fix it.

4. When one or both partners consider having an affair or one partner has had an affair.

5. When a couple is staying together for the sake of the children. Often couples believe that they are doing the right thing when staying together actually is detrimental to the children. On the contrary, if the couple is able to resolve their issues and move toward a positive, healthy relationship, this may be the best decision for all involved.