Are you in the relationship with the Right Person? Here's few Ways to Find Out.

From sceptical friends to protective parents and relatives, newly committed couples commonly face a basic question, “how do know if this guy or girl is right for you?”

Most of the couples don’t pay much attention to this question and the common reply they give is "I just love her / him and we both love each other intensely”, “he / she is professionally stable or will get stable soon” or simply give general answers like, “we don’t know when we fell in love with each other and he/she cares for me intensely”. There is nothing wrong with these answers, but none of them articulates a person’s true reason for being in a relationship with a person since all of these answers are subjected to time.

With time person’s priorities in life, responsibilities, financial conditions, desires and maturity level changes, they can’t devote same time to the relationship or can take care of their partners, like they do in the early stage of relationships.

  

Marriage Counsellor and Pre-Marital Coach, Shivani Misri Sadhoo suggests the key to really understand why you are in a relationship, you should evaluate these basic tasks:-

1.  First assess how satisfied you feel in every aspect of your relationship: So break down your relationship aspects in sex, financial independence, emotional intimacy, communication and then evaluate how satisfied you feel in each one.

2. If you feel unsatisfied with any aspect of your relationship, then discuss with your partner and check if you both can improve in that aspect.For example if you don’t feel comfortable about your boyfriend’s approach towards savings and managing finances, if he always talks about financial aspect for future in an eccentric way , then communicate your dislikes and check if things can improve.

3. Determine if you need to do some self-work. If you have a light lingering sense of dissatisfaction about your relationship, it indicates that you don’t yet know what you need from a relationship. This lingering feeling of dissatisfaction may also indicate that you’d benefit from doing some self-work. It could help to be single for a while to connect with your deeper individual needs and values.