A happy marriage means you and your partner love each other and you both are committed to bring out the best among yourselves. A happy marriage also means that there is a climate of positive energy, gratitude, and appreciation between the two of you.
If you are missing any of these then one thing you should definitely do, is to check your habits, suggest Marriage Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo. She says that habits too can create or even destroy happiness out of marital lives. Many of you might accept that you have any habit that affects your marital life, but in reality when we act we rarely or never notice it. Habits that affect the health of marital life are criticism, contempt, sarcasm, using high vocal tone, distancing behaviours etc. Here are some simple but significant gestures that you can incorporate in your day-to-day life to make your marital life beautiful.
Never miss to greet your partner lovingly in the morning. Always greet your partner positively in the morning. It could be anything from “I’m glad to wake up beside you” to “I am happy to be married to you.”.
Never miss an opportunity to hug your partner. When your partner comes home after office then don’t waste the moment ignorantly by talking on the phone or watching TV, always hug him/her and make sure you hug at least for 10 to 20 seconds.
Always compliment your partner at the end of the day. Many marriages suffer from chronic under-appreciation. Partners don’t feel appreciated and they too don’t show their appreciation. So always put efforts to end your day by thanking your wife / husband. It could be anything from, “Thanks for making the lovely dinner” to “Thanks for not getting angry on me when I made the mistake in the morning” etc.Not only does your partner feel appreciated after your compliment, but “you start to train yourself to look for the good. You focus your attention on the things they do, not just what they don’t do.
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