How often do you worry about things you can’t change? Probably a few times a day if not less and you are not alone, a large population in this world dedicates a good portion of their lifetime for worrying on matters - they cannot control or change or often that never happens. In fact, science has found some amazing facts about human behaviour relating to worrying.
- About 85% of the things humans worry about, never ever happens.
- Worrying kills a person’s ability to give 100% to the task, as tension drains a person’s mental energy and divert them to focus on worrying.
- People who let go of worries instead of stressing over them are much healthier than those who don’t.
According to Psychologist and Marriage Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo, the problem lies with the fact that even though most people know that their worries would create stress for their body & mind and it’s slowly eating their body from inside, they cannot stop themselves from worrying. So how one can let go of their worries? Psychologist Shivani suggests people to try few simple strategies, mentioned below to stop worrying once and for all.
1. Accept uncertainty & learn to thrive on it.
The beauty of life is how unpredictable it is - you never quite know what’s around the corner! Learn to embrace this uncertainty and thrive on it. Who knows what you think is bad for you or for your loved ones or is actually a necessary teaching for the better future. Just put your heart and soul into the things you care about and is on your hands, and work hard on achieving your dreams. That’s all you can do. The rest is up to the time to decide.
2. Accept the worry and then move on.
Worrying about worrying is a dangerous cycle to fall into. A 2005 study in the journal of Behaviour Research and Therapy showed that people who naturally try to suppress their unwanted thoughts end up being more distressed by said thoughts. Meanwhile, "those who are naturally more accepting of their intrusive thoughts are less obsessional, have lower levels of depression, and are less anxious," the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee researchers wrote. Therefore, people who get caught up in worry when they try to force themselves to stop worrying may want to try a different strategy – “acceptance”.
3. Develop hobbies
No matter how busy you are in your life now, identify your hobbies and dedicate some time to develop them. So that when you grow old and live a retired life, you do not have to suffer with doing nothing. Engaging in activities that keep your hands busy and mind distracted could help prevent flashbacks from bad experiences (if there were any).
4. Learn to live in the present and be mindful
Mindfulness is the personal approach of bringing self-attention to the internal and external experiences occurring in the present moment. Mindfulness can be developed through the practice of meditation and other trainings. Learning to be present will help you keep your mind focused on what you’re doing now rather than worrying about things you can’t change. Even simple breathing exercise like Pranayam or 10 mins of meditation can reduce everyday stress by as much as 39%.