Is it possible to have a language for love? Yes, said world’s prominent marital counselor Dr. Gary Chapman. There are 5 love languages or five universal ways in which we express and interpret love. Although there are five types of love languages but most people lean heavily on one or two and are usually drawn to people who "speak" a different love language than themselves. Below are the 5 types of love languages that can be applied to all the relationships in your life.
1. Words of affirmation
Some people value what they hear, like "I love you" or other words of appreciation or compliments. These individuals feel that words have more weight than actions and would rather hear "the reasons behind that love" versus any other expression of love. This also means that if something negative or insulting is said to one of these individuals, it will not be easily forgiven.
2. Quality time
For some people spending time with loved ones is their preferred love language. Whether it be a quiet lunch or an afternoon walk, spending quality time and being the focus of their undivided attention leaves them feeling satisfied and comforted more than words. "Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful" to these individuals, since "being there" is crucial.
3. Receiving gifts
Not all people who enjoy receiving gifts are "materialistic", this just means that for these individuals love is equated with a tangible gift. The gift doesn't have to be extravagant or elaborate, but it does have to be meaningful and thoughtful. So if you know that your wife’s favorite hero's movie is released, you can surprise her with a ticket and that would show your love and thoughtfulness behind the gift.
4. Acts of service
Hearing the phrase "let me do that for you" is music to our ears, but for people who see acts of service as the greatest expression of love, hearing this phrase is like hitting the jackpot! These individuals want their partners to notice that their own responsibilities are grand and sometimes daunting and that a helping hand every once-an-a-while shows love and care. Just as much as these individuals love acts of service, they do not deal well with broken promises and laziness and have very little tolerance for people who make them work , because it shows a lack of value for them.
5. Physical touch
The language of physical touch doesn't only refer to physical touch and /or affection in the bedroom, but refers to the everyday physical connections, like handholding, kissing, pats on the back, and any type of re-affirming physical contact. A person who desires physical touch and affection aren't overly touchy-feely but for them, touch shows how much their partner cares for them. If that physical bond is broken , their entire relationship can be destroyed indefinitely.
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