A lot of time people get psychologically or emotionally stuck in their lives or suffer from the feeling that they are not able to move ahead. Maybe they have goals but for some reason, they are not able to achieve them. Maybe self-judgment is causing someone to lower their expectations, or low self-worth is preventing someone from making positive changes. A person can also get stuck in worry, afraid to make a decision or change something in their life. Or maybe the person becomes disappointed with some failure and may feel too hard to move on.
When we get stuck, we often wait for external changes to happen. But change doesn't happen to us, it comes from within us. Today psychologist and Marriage Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo shares some effective strategies one can try if he/she feels stuck in life:
1. Forgiving yourself or others is a way to let go and let go of the past.
Are you unable to forgive yourself for mistakes you made or you blame yourself or others for the things that did not turn out the way you hoped?
Ask yourself why are you stuck onto these memories, and what you can do to live with them, accept them, and move forward. You can't undo the past, but you can choose to find peace. Forgiving yourself or others is a way to let go and move on.
2. Change your perspective.
Once you release the grip of your past, you will be in a better position to see your reality that will help you to successfully identify: - what changes are needed to move ahead. Sometimes gaining new perspective is not that easy and if you feel it so, then try mind boosting activities like - meditation, yoga, travel and/or take a break from your daily routine to clear your mind to evaluate and introspect your current situation.
3. Start with small changes.
Once you understand your perspective and identify the probable solutions or changes you need to make a positive move ahead, then start bringing the new changes one by one and build it into daily routines. Like if you identify that you need to wake up early in the morning and take a daily walk or go to a gym and/or do meditation. It's better to start with getting up early first and build it into a habit and then move to your next habit else if you try to start everything at once, chances are high that you will fail to face the challenges of all new change throws at one go. Remember after a while, an accumulation of small changes will help you accomplish your goals, and you will start feeling unstuck.
4. Believe in yourself.
Trust that you can reach your expectations and get out of your comfort zone. Make a list of your strengths and positive traits, and remember that you are very capable. Many people sabotage their own progress—consciously or unconsciously—as a result of deep-seated fears and limiting beliefs.
About the Author: Marriage Counsellor & Relationship Expert Shivani Misri Sadhoo is a certified Relationship counsellor and a certified Neuro Linguistic Practitioner with specialised training and experience in the fields of Relationship issues (communication, co-dependency, conflicts, couple counselling (affairs/betrayals, trust issues, difficulty communicating, conflicting values) Bereavement, grief and loss (affairs, separation, divorce, childhood) Mental health Issue (anxiety, social anxiety, fear, depression, low mood) Work issues (assertiveness, stress, feeling dissatisfied, anger, career change) Life events and transitions (leaving home, job change, retirement), Child and adolescent issues etc. Shivani has done her post-graduation in Counselling Psychology and she regularly attends training workshops on Relationship Counselling, Marital Counselling CBT and Counselling Skills from AIIMS, VIMHANS and various other reputed hospitals.