Happiness generally is in the fleeting mode in people's life, a large population thinks that their happiness depends on their next big promotion, next big company recruitment, buy the next SUV, a bigger house and so on. This forward-looking thinking creates plenty of room for letdowns, however, when a happy state does not actually materialize. Your new job may be great until reality sets in and you notice how difficult your co-workers are, or that you negotiated a salary lower than your friend earns in a similar company. Or your date goes great, but as you move toward in a long-term relationship, the personality issues start to become apparent.
Working toward a new desired state can be exciting. But believing that you will miraculously move from unhappy to happy by reaching the desired goal is not a sure thing. In many cases, people measure happiness by comparative thinking:
· My house is the best until my friend invited me to much bigger and well-furnished house, who paid little extra payment than what I did to buy mine.
· My kids are doing fine in school—until my neighbor informs me that her son has got through the Olympiad examinations.
· My job is going great—until I learn about the money I could have been making if I stayed in my old company.
Psychologist and Counsellor, Shivani Misri Sadhoo shares that these thoughts and its reciprocations, generally pass unchecked in most of the people’s mind.
Over the time people keep silently comparing, expecting, setting bigger and bigger desires until one day they suddenly realize that their blood pressure is no more normal, or need medicines to fall sleep, or they simply fell in the grips of depression. She suggests the sleeping pills or anti-depressants have changed the way people see life – so do not see it as a negative aspect but count its blessings too.