Before Starting a New Relationship – You Must Check these

The relationship is a tricky aspect of one's life and if things go wrong, it can devastate us and if a relationship is right, it can bless us with a wonderful life partner.   

As easy as it is to shrug it off and blame it on the other person, there are certain things everyone needs to accomplish in their own life before they can be a good partner. If you want your next relationship to be successful, check the below list, suggested by Delhi's eminent Marriage Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo, before deciding your another date.

1. Get involved for the right reasons

One of the simplest questions to ask yourself is why you want a relationship in the first place? Is it because you really like this person, or are you trying to distract yourself from other problems?

Sometimes people, especially in young age, people enter into a relationship for all the wrong reasons, like starting a new relationship only because all of your friends are dating someone and being with someone just makes you feel secure with a partner rather than for the feelings you have for that particular person. 

So the first thing you should do is to progress consciously and understand if the reasons are right to go in for a relationship. Then visualize if you want to grow old with the person or if you are looking for a life partner.

2. Avoid sex as a medium to gain intimacy

A lot of time people tend to begin a relationship with sex believing that it will eventually lead to a more emotionally intimate or a committed relationship. Research shows relationships that start with sex before emotional intimacy, typically fails to become committed unions.

3. Leave the Past in the Past

Everyone has had things happened to them that they would rather forget, but not everyone can shrug it off. Memories only become baggage if you dwell on them and refuse to move on. Learn to let go of the people who are no longer in your life and forget the ones who let you down. Move on and set your sight on the horizon.

4. Learn to Accept Other People

One of the toughest things you learn in life is that other people don’t exist to fulfill all your expectations. Accept other people for who they are and learn to embrace their flaws. A good relationship is one where both people can feel comfortable and at home. Judging people is a great way to get them headed towards the door.