Generally, people mistakenly believe that being likeable comes naturally or is an inborn personality trait that few lucky people possess and that make them the centre of attraction in every group, get the best of friends and associates help them to steer high in their career path.
According to the Relationship & Marriage Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo, being likeable is not always an in-born personality trait and in most cases, it is developed by people who become very successful in their lives by developing certain habits that are related to emotional intelligence. These habits are:
Likeable People Ask Questions
The biggest mistake people make when it comes to listening is they’re so focused on what they’re going to say next or how what the other person is saying is going to affect them that they fail to hear what’s being said. The words that come out are loud and clear, but the meaning is lost.
A simple way to avoid this is to ask good and relevant questions. People like to know you’re listening, and something as simple as a clarification question shows that not only are you listening, but you also care about what they’re saying. You’ll be surprised how much respect and appreciation you would gain just by asking such questions.
Likeable People are not a Know-It-All kind
A lot of people try to prove that they know it all or a lot on any topic and they convert any conversation with friends, family or with strangers into self-opinions. Remember people talk with another person depending on what the other person prefers to hear and/or what is his/her choice of interest.
Remember rarely people like the company of those who talk about to gain self-importance. People like personalities who listen to them and can make them feel good about themselves.
They Are Genuine
Being genuine and honest is essential to being likeable. No one likes a fake or pretence. People gravitate toward people who are genuine because they know they can trust them. It is difficult to like someone when you don’t know who they really are and how they really feel.
Likeable people know who they are. They are confident enough to be comfortable in their own skin. By concentrating on what drives you and makes you happy as an individual, you become a much more interesting person than if you attempt to win people over by making choices that you think will make them like you.
Liable Person are Open Minded
Being open-minded makes a person approachable and interesting to others. No one wants to have a conversation with someone who has already formed an opinion and is not willing to listen.
Having an open mind is crucial in the workplace where approachability means access to new ideas and help. To eliminate preconceived notions and judgment, you need to see the world through other people’s eyes. This doesn’t require you to believe what they believe or condone their behaviour, it simply means you quit passing judgment long enough to truly understand what makes them tick. Only then can you let them be who they are.
About the Author: Marriage Counsellor & Relationship Expert Shivani Misri Sadhoo is a certified Relationship counsellor and a certified Neuro Linguistic Practitioner with specialised training and experience in the fields of Relationship issues (communication, co-dependency, conflicts, couple counselling (affairs/betrayals, trust issues, difficulty communicating, conflicting values) Bereavement, grief and loss (affairs, separation, divorce, childhood) Mental health Issue (anxiety, social anxiety, fear, depression, low mood) Work issues (assertiveness, stress, feeling dissatisfied, anger, career change) Life events and transitions (leaving home, job change, retirement), Child and adolescent issues etc. Visit http://www.saarthicounsellingservices.com for more details & for an appointment.
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