4 Negative Thoughts That Can Destroy Your Relationships

The way we practice to think about our partners and our problems, in reality, shapes our personal life and our relationship. A lot of people have a tendency of take their partners for granted once the initial stage of uncertainty in the relationship is over. Especially after marriage, a careless and eccentric attitude of a partner towards his/her spouse may unknowingly push them to start building negative thoughts towards their spouse that gradually kills trust, erodes intimacy, and cripples communication.

Eminent Relationship & Marriage Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo share that being aware of the relationship-crippling impact of toxic thoughts and how they destroy relationships is crucial for any relationship to survive and thrive.

Counsellor Shivani shares the 4 most common toxic thought patterns that exist in virtually every relationship and she suggests every couple to not let these distorted, negative, exaggerated thoughts to poison your relationship with the person you love.

1.    Always Doing Things Wrong Trap: No person is God and no person is a carbon copy of another. Each one is unique and comes with their own set of perceptions towards life, upbringing, and attitude. A lot of partners sometimes miss to understand this difference and start seeing their partner as either always doing the wrong thing, or never doing the right thing.

2.    Over assumptions and eccentric expectations: When one partner assumes the other will always meet his or her needs & demands— completely ignoring what the other person’s situation is or what mental and physical condition, the person is in right now.

3.    Labeling: Sometimes partners start labeling their partner and with that, they gradually lose sight of his or her positive qualities. General labels are like, "You are so lazy!", “you are so unorganized, never keep things in order ”, “You are so forgetful”, etc.

4.    Overreacting to imaginations and assumptions: Sometimes people get so involved and grabbed by their imagination for their partner that they start developing strong assumptions and they start accusations, arguments, and fights. Like he is so late after office, I am sure he has taken his female college to the bar etc.