In the last blog article Relationship Expert and Marriage CounselorShivani Misri Sadhoo shared how two people living together can still feel lonely in their relationship and how loneliness is different than being alone. The earlier one is the state of mind where the person desires to get connected with someone and that someone is not available, which is different than being alone.
Today Counsellor Shivani shares what couples can do to stop feeling lonely in their relationship.
1. Discuss with your partner.
The first thing one should do if he/she feels lonely in their relationship is to talk to their partner. Share your feelings to him or her and express your concerns about the relationship but avoid getting into a blame game.
Remember you, partner, is not God who must know everything without telling and if you don’t effectively express your feelings to your partner, it will be difficult to find and address the root cause of the problem. Relationships that have open and consistent communication often have fewer issues.
2. Don’t isolate yourself
Loneliness can put you in a vicious cycle and the more you close yourself the more it will lead you to loneliness. If you’re feeling alone in your relationship, resist the temptation to hide within your house. If necessary, push yourself to meet your friends and well wishers (with whom you can share your feelings), talk to them and socialise.
3. Keep yourself productively busy
You can fight loneliness by keeping yourself busy with productive activities like volunteering to teach to an under privileged, join an NGO, start gardening, crafting, reading books. When you involve yourself and keep busy, it’s easier to forget that you were feeling lonely as other things would keep your mind occupied. It’s also rewarding when you accomplish something new!
4. Be nice to yourself
Just because you’re feeling lonely in your relationship and experiencing some challenges in your life, doesn’t mean you need to become hard on yourself. We all go through rough patches, and you need to remember to be kind to yourself and offer words of encouragement instead of self-diminishing.