The Secret of Life to Change Your View of Happiness

Most people wait all week for Friday, all summer for the monsoon, entire married and professional life to buy their dream house, in fact, wait all life for happiness.

When the waits end, it takes the matter of just a few days or hours for people to get accustomed to new achievements or situation and soon they get accustomed to it and starts to feel sad and a new search for persuading for happiness starts.

So the big question is cant we stay happy by having zero expectations? Do we need, purchase or possess something special and pricy to feel happy in life?

“No,” says Delhi’s eminent Counsellor and Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo. She says we do need life goal, we should have plans that can bring convenience to our life – BUT thinking that these achievements alone would bring happiness, means we are missing living happily every day and every moment of our life. Counsellor Shivani, who also heads Saarthi 

Counselling Services says that the secret of life to stay happy is to change the viewpoint of happiness. 

Here are four suggestions to get you started:

1. Stop putting conditions on your happiness. Don’t think "if only I get this or get that...then I'd be happy". Instead, understand living every moment fully and effectively in itself brings joy and satisfaction.

That way you don’t target single goals like next promotions, losing 10 kg in gym, big saving etc. rather you target to live every day effectively – you target to spend every hour in office by enjoying your work (of course that may not come in a day or two but use your innovation, patience and stay positive), you go to Gym every day and enjoy exercising, you start talk morning walks and enjoy sunrise.

This way not only will you stop living life in wait and anticipation, but you will start to enjoy every moment and nice things will start happening in your life gradually.

2.  Learn to laugh and laugh a lot. People start to live and move around by getting themselves serious because that way people will take you seriously. But remember it’s not just unknown people even life-shortening diseases start to take you seriously – if you pose a serious face most of the day.

Remember laughter relaxes your body, decreases stress hormones, enhances the immune system, and as a bonus-releases the body's own painkillers, endorphins, which helps to improve your sense of well-being.

3.  Understand it's your thoughts that prevent you from being happy. Dwelling on them, discussing them more, thinking about them will just solidify them. So while it can feel good to share your thoughts with others, don't go around telling everyone, say, that your boss hates you, because you might end up truly believing it