Relationship Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo Shares the Secrets to get out of Relationship Rut



5 Tips To Get Out Of A Relationship Rut


A relationship rut refers to a relationship phase where a couple feels that they have lost the spark in their companionship. There might be a lot of stagnation and boredom in the relationship. A relationship rut is usually characterised by the lack of communication or a feeling of not having fun anymore in the relationship. So the question is that if a long-term couple found themselves in a relationship rut, how do they get out of it? Here are some of the steps that can help.
1. Love Is A Verb, It Isn’t A Thing

When two people meet for the first time and start to like each other, due to a natural phenomenon that pushes all species to reproduce, humans too get their mind and emotion hijacked by their hormones. A lot of people mistake this phenomenon i.e. rush of hormones as the real face of love and in their perception, they start to believe that love should happen on its own. They feel that when it happens, there is a rush of hormones or sparks everywhere.

Hence like the famous John Mayer songs says ’Love is a verb, it isn’t a thing’, i.e. one has to keep loving a person to fall in love, as the sparks and natural hormonal rush are not a permanent thing. They naturally vanish after 2-4 years of being in a relationship. Thus, the first step to overcoming a relationship rut is to understand and accept that one has to put in effort to keep falling in love with the same person again and again....

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