A relationship takes both time and dedication by both the partners to grow and finally blossom. While walking on the path of relationship, couples face many challenges and they expect to overcome these challenges through problem-solving, effective talking, quality time spending and much more. One of the biggest relationship challenges is to address the partner’s complaint. A lot of times, couples develop a tendency to ignore each other’s complaints, till things turn silently from bad to worst.
Today Delhi’s eminent relationship and marriage counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo shares three partner’s complaints that are very crucial to a relationship and no partner should ignore them. These are:-
1. Complaints about Sex
A person should never ignore their partner’s complaint about sex. Complaints about not having enough sex or feeling unsatisfied with their current sex lives are a very common relationship complaint that can get surfaced at any phase of the relationship. These complaints are natural with situational and biological and physical changes of each partner.
But sexual complaints can turn lethal for a relationship – primarily when the other partner makes only minor and short-lived efforts or, more commonly, responds with excuses or minimizing or dismissing it. It can further cause an emotional wound to the other partner because of the nature and frequency of the rejection it brings. Because every night going to bed without any sexual connect will feel like a stinging rejection, one that impacts mood and self-esteem as well as other aspects of emotional health. Gradually the person is likely to withdraw emotionally from the relationship.
Hence when your partner voices sexual frustrations or concerns, take them seriously. Discuss them honestly, work on finding mutually satisfying resolutions, follow-up, deliver on promises, and if you’re stuck, get information from the experts or meet a relationship expert. If it's physiological issue, you may meet a medical practitioner.
2. Complaints about in-laws adjustment issues
Today very commonly in-laws interferences places in marriages, where the in-law has an overtly hostile or critical attitude or does the opposite—ignores and shuns, or when they disrespect boundaries, for example by ignoring requests to check before unscheduled drop-ins, it is up to the other partner to set limits with his or her parents. Not doing so and ignoring the complaint or minimizing it erodes feelings of loyalty and safety, and can lead to an early breakup or an onset of an unsatisfactory marriage.
3. Complaints about your involvement with Smartphone:
Smartphones and tablets have opened the doorways to the world but in real relationships, they function more like walls than doors. Studies have found out that higher levels of time spent with smartphones are associated with greater relationship conflict and lower relationship satisfaction, as well as depressive symptoms and lower life satisfaction.
Hence, if your partner complains that you spend too much time on your phone and they feel ignored then TAKE THE COMPLAINT SERIOUSLY. Act immediately; take steps like making device-free times in the home like during and after dinner.). Allocate section of the house where neither you nor any family member should use a smartphone – like in the bedroom.
Remember when our partner voices a concern we should always listen and take it seriously, but especially when it involves a complaint in the high-risk category. Responding to complaints calmly and fairly isn’t easy but doing so will increase both relationship satisfaction and longevity.
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