7 Things Confident People Don't Do

Avoid these traps to enjoy more self-confidence. 

Confidence means feeling sure of yourself and your abilities, not in an arrogant way, but in a realistic and secure way. Confidence isn't about feeling superior to others but it's a quiet inner knowledge that you know you're capable. To be successful in life, be it in academics, sports, professional arena, business, parenting or being a good life partner, self-confidence matters in every aspect. 

According to Delhi’s eminent Psychologist & Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo, shares that self-confident person understands what he or she values and what they aim to achieve. Confident people share some habits and thought processes that help them to reach achieve their goal.  Here are the 7 things that self-confident people don’t, so you can become one of them by adopting the following points in your life.

1.  They don’t accept that they are any lesser than others:

One of the foremost beliefs underlying self-confidence is, “My value as a person is exactly the same as everyone else’s.” That doesn’t say that you don’t have to work for what you aim for, and it definitely doesn’t mean life divides up it's rewards equally. However, it does mean you have an equal right as any other else to stand up for yourself and chase your dreams, enjoy your life, and make a difference in the way that’s most cherishable to you.

 2.  They are not afraid of self-doubt:

Confident individuals understand that self-doubt is a negative thing all the time. At times fear is a sign that you haven’t prepared enough for the big performance eg a speech or an interview. Practice what you want to say and(( do will give you something to fall back on when the you feel the pressure)). The voice of self-doubt might be saying you need to be more prepared, move in a different way or take a breather.

3.   They don’t hesitate too much:

The other side of point number 2 is once you’ve put in the hours of practice, you should be capable to take a decision without worrying over what might not be correct.

 4.   They are not afraid of failure:

Confidence doesn’t mean you will not fail or get defeated. It doesn’t mean you will be always smiling or that you never experience nervousness or self-doubt. Instead, it means you know you are in control of those feelings and you are willing to face them to conquer the next challenges.

5.  They don’t fear criticism or conflict:

Someone who is confident can accept the feedback or criticism and work on it without going into a shell. The time when one’s self-image is no longer on the table, you can handle criticism and rejection without allowing it to discourage you. In the same way, confidence doesn’t mean you crush other people down and out when a conflict appears. It’s possible to share your thoughts with conviction and clarity by still making room to listen to someone else’s suggestion and even agreeing on a given point.

6.   They don’t have to make things perfect or great:

Perfectionism is a type of faulty thinking that creates low self-confidence. If you think you got to have something all figured out before you work on it, those things can distract you from doing the things you cherish or love.