4 Questions to Ask Before Committing to a Relationship

Falling in love always feel awesome. It generally starts with lots of chats and late night phone calls, eating out at the best restaurants and followed by the golden dates. And after some time, comes the end of honeymoon period of love and the bubble bursts. The couples start finding each other incompatible, goes into frequent fights or witness infidelity.

So the question is how one can avoid such unpleasant experience and heartbreak in life? Delhi’s eminent Relationship and Marriage Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo says to minimize the risk of falling for a wrong person, an individual must ask certain important questions prior committing to a relationship. These questions are:

1. Put sincere effort to know the person?
Do not trust anybody until you know them well. No matter it’s your friend or cousin who introduced the person to you, it doesn’t matter. Anyone can wear masks. The best way to know someone is : 
a. Spend time with them while they’re with their family, b. listen to the words they say to you and 3.  observe them in a variety of circumstances.

Meeting a date’s parents may sound cliché in today’s world but remember knowing a person’s family can help you understand what kind of foundation the person has. No matter how far we travel, those development years left a huge impression on what we are, and who we’re likely to resort back to when we’re older.

2. Check if the person genuinely values you
He loves my drive in my career, my desire to help animals, and my commitment to my own fitness. In other words, he loves the same things I love about myself. Before you decide to commit to someone forever, make sure the person values you for who you are. This means the person should respect your career drive, love for animals, helping NGOs etc.

3. Check if the person is comfortable with you in the quiet?
Remember if your partner can’t enjoy the silence with you, it’s actually evidence that there’s a lot going on inside their head and they need noise for distraction. Spend more time getting to know them before you decide to commit.

4. Check how you both solve issues?
Prior to you committing to someone, check how you both solve issues or serious problems, does your partner use criticism, anger, and arguments or practice deep listening and talk things in a healthy way. Remember inability to solve problems in an intelligent and mature manner can damage any relationship in long run.