Marital abuse is an act where one of the spouses intentionally harms their partner. In marriages, abuse covers a broad spectrum of behaviors and actions like harming the partner emotionally, physically or sexually (or combination of these). Coping with abuse, especially emotional and the verbal abuse is extremely hard to handle (in case of sexual abuse, the person should immediately file a complaint with authority or reach out for professional help).
Today Delhi’s eminent relationship expert and marriage counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo shares how one can handle.
1. Learn about the dynamics of abusive relationships. Knowing more about the pattern of abuse will help you understand that the abuse is not your fault but is something your partner chooses to do.
2. Living with emotional and verbal abuse can take its toll on the overall well-being of the person. The first thing the victim should do is take care of his or her and find healthy ways to deal with the stress of an abusive marriage. The abused partner should remind oneself that he or she is unique; he or she is wonderful with great qualities and talents. Indulge in a hobby or interest you enjoy. Try starting an exercise routine or reading a good book to soothe yourself.
3. Maintain your support system and keep it strong. Hence keep your communication open and free with your with friends and family as much as you can. Your partner may try to limit the amount of time you spend with others or sabotage your friendships. Tell them what is going on so they will understand if they don't hear from you.
4. If you feel that things are getting out of your hands, stress overflowing from marital discord is too much to handle, then its the time to seek professional help, consult a professionally qualified counselor/therapist who is trained to handle relationship issues.