TOP RELATIONSHIP MISTAKES TO AVOID

Relationships can be tricky at times and almost all the relationships come with some challenges. If you’re fortunate, you’ll notice the red flags before they become highly serious. There are definite ones, such as emotional, verbal or physical abuse, that are obvious grounds for ending things. And a lot of drama (yelling, crying, constant bickering, emotional swings) rarely indicates a happy union.

But then there are also the less obvious mistakes. The ones that, if left ignored or not corrected, causes strain and could even ruin your happily ever after. If you are guilty of one or some of the below, mentioned points, then don’t panic. All relationships involve and evolve through learning. Identify where you can make improvements and then get to it.

In this article, Delhi’s top marriage Counselor and Relationship Expert Shivani Misri Sadhoo talk about the top relationship mistakes to avoid.

Losing The Romance In The Relationship Is One Of The Reasons Why Relationships Fail

It is fairly easy to become complacent and slack on giving an effort for romance. The reality is, relationships are work in progress. Not that you cannot have any fun along the way, but you have to remember it takes a focused and constant effort to be romantic with your partner.

Trying To Control Your Significant Other

Many of you either have control issues or things that the other person does drive you crazy. Both of these situations can lead to you wanting to control or comment on every move the other person makes. Think about it wisely, would you like someone telling you what to do in every minute of life? You are not the parent of this person. If he/she is a grown adult, treat them like they are.

Expecting Perfection

You all are human. You will make mistakes. Do not hold your significant other to an unrealistically high expectation. This is particularly hard for those of you who hold unrealistically high expectations for yourselves, but that’s another matter altogether.

Avoiding Confrontation

Fighting and arguing is not the way most of you want to spend your time, so it can be tempting to just keep all of the problems under the rug. The flaw with that idea is that the problems get collected and multiply. This will eventually end up in an explosive argument, or a parting of paths with the other person confused as to what went wrong. Communication is important in any relationship and it should not be avoided.

Trying To Change The Other Person

In relationships, you need to realize all are unique individuals. Often, you are drawn to someone who is completely opposite to you and after a while, you could be tempted to try to change them just like yourself. Take a step backward and recall why you fell in love with this person in the first place. My boyfriend/girlfriend is for the most part carefree and fun loving, but sometimes his/her jokes start to drive me all over or I wish he/she was more organized. You have to remember that you love that he/she can make you laugh and that they have such a positive outlook on life.

Keeping Secrets From Your Loved One

This is something which goes along with keeping communication open. Avoid keeping secrets. Not that you have to tell the other person every detail about your life, but you should not intentionally keep something major hidden from them. You know it is a secret that needs to be shared when you feel even slightly worried about not telling your partner. It will come out anytime. Thus, disclosing the same sooner is always better than later.

Not Taking Differences In Core Values Seriously

Even though you may like the same things and enjoy spending time with one another, you will still have a difficult time getting past major differences. Core values include things like religion, morality, and the priority of things like family, friends, careers, and finance. Take some time to discuss all these before you move your relationship ahead or you might be in for some disappointment later.