Trust issues which is one of the biggest obstacles for you in life-related to relationship, warmth, and intimacy. The known fact is overcoming your trust issues in relationships is probably going to be very challenging. It is like if you have real trust issues, which is due to past experience that you had. Now in order to be overprotective, you start lacking trust with everyone around, because of your fear of being betrayed, humiliated, taken advantage of or otherwise being manipulated again. This fear may be overwhelming.
One of the most important questions remains: that why it is so difficult to let go of trust issues?
The simple answer to this question is “Prejudice”
Trust issues somewhere cloud your thinking which often is legitimate close to reality in today’s world. Still, causing you to anticipate some negative consequences you should let down your guard to secure self. There might be prejudice at your end to have an ongoing suspicion that people are going to take advantage of you when you trust them.
Look for the signs when you are getting hyperactive on securing self. It’s like you rein to act in your head about how someone is going to take advantage of you when you start trusting them in a relationship. You may predict a betrayal. The alarming fear and anticipation of the pain keep your trust issues alive, giving them newfound significance & dimensions in a new relation.
Unfortunately, having trust issues may turn into a self-sabotaged personality. It is when you don’t trust, you don’t connect with others freely. You are at a loss of losing on chances to get to know people connect to them, develop your circle of acquaintances, form friendships, and further avoid getting into intimate relationships which inevitably lead to a state of self-deprivation.
This kind of self-sabotage results in lack of self-confidence, missed prospects, loneliness, and even social anxiety, which is all attributable to painful trust issues that will not concede itself.
Overcoming trust issues requires your views to changes. Considering, not as a self-protective gesture, but as self-sabotaging one creating havoc in your personality is a way to motivate yourself to work through fixing it. This isn’t such easy or obvious to fix. Your past experienced & pain which is real and is a validated one doesn’t leave the possibility of being hurt easily again.
In this article, Delhi's top relationship expert and psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo talks about 5 signs one has trust issues.
Predict -How People Will Betray Without Symptoms
Indeed, it’s quite reasonable, when you are with someone who has a track record of offenses. And you proceed with them further, you should remain aware of their probability of being deceitful. Still, most of you have this sense of trusting while dealing with people who have never shown any signs of untrustworthy from their end in a relationship.
Still, you anticipate a breach of your trust. Why is it so? because your past experience thoughts are overshadowing your perceived future, & contaminating your present relationship.
You Trust People You Have No Business Trusting
It’s counter-intuitive, yet it happens all the time. Having trust issues, result in letting you place your trust easily towards those who are most likely to take advantage of you. Your emotional self-fulfilling insight lets you feel vulnerable to being cheated again, this way you are unconsciously affirming how untrustworthy people are.
Trust Too Quickly
It may be due to your tendency of self-fulfilling prophecy, still, this one leaves you vulnerable towards failing to understand and accept how to trust works. Trust is to be earned. As a mature being, you’re at best to begin with an open mind state and extend your trust towards people and eventually how they build a track record with you.
And If you’re not mature enough in creating trusted relationships, you may start trusting blindly.
Sharing Is Not Caring
With having widening trust issues, sharing is not be mistaken for caring. Eventually, it takes trust to open up and pour your heart out with others. Trust issues foretell how other people will use your inward feelings against you at some point or another, so it’s best to be guarded.
Your Relationships Are Shallow, Even If You Aren’t
You will have shallow relationships when you have trust issues irrespective of how deep thinker and the empathetic person you may be, at all times you may be ‘protecting’ your inner, truer self and not openly sharing in relationships, it is when your relationships are based on lighter, less threatening communication about external things then only you may develop deeper bonds in relationships.
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