5 THINGS HAPPY COUPLES NEVER DO

True happiness in a relationship is just not about the first flush of romance or the honeymoon period. In fact, it is a long-lasting emotion. Its contentment is a deep, lasting emotion that fills the relationship every day, even when times are tough. Does this sound impossible? In fact, long term contentment is within your reach – one just doesn’t leave it to good luck. The secret to a happy & fulfilling relationship is giving little care to it and nurture it into developing into a big tree of trust and respect.

Just like nurturing a tree, a relationship can’t survive if its stems are weak. Happy couples know this fact very well and avoid certain things in their relationships to stay happy together.

In this article, Delhi's eminent marriage counselor and relationship expert Shivani Misri Sadhoo talk about 5 Things Happy Couples Never Do.

Playing The Blame Game

Often in the blame game, everyone comes out as a loser. Whether there’s a conflict where the money is spent, or feeling tensed out and frustrated about the daily chores, blaming game will get you nowhere. Instead of playing it, sit down and discuss your feelings and needs in a dignified & safe way. Be responsible for your life. If you’re feeling upset or stressed, don’t blame others for your feelings, or held them responsible for your happiness or any other mental state. Fulfill your own desires on your own, and where you feel like seeking support from your partner, approach them calmly and gently.

Talking Disrespectfully To Each Other

Talking disrespectfully to each other may leave both parties feeling deeply hurt and offended. Your partner is the one you love and have chosen them to share your life with – they are to be treated with utmost respect and care. In quarrels, be mindful of the words you choose while speaking with them. Devote some time to let you and them calm down and regain your thoughts & composures. Using words that are cruel & unkind during a dispute or indulging in violent actions like smashing a plate on the floor: No matter afterward how many times you say sorry, you won’t be able to put things in your relationships back the way it was.

Putting Their Relationship As Last Priority

Your relationship is a central part of your life, and it needs nurturing, care, and full attention. If you put everything above your relationship in your priorities, your hobbies, your friends, it will eventually break down. Never take your partner for granted or consider them to give you importance when having your own set of the priority list before them. They deserve the best of you, not what’s left over when you’ve dealt with everything else. You have to make extra commitments or have to spend some time afterward than with your hobbies or friends. Just don’t let your relationship be at the bottom of your list of priorities.

Keep Scores

Are you one of those partners who always remind your partner of how much money you bring in? & in turn, they always bring up that they had to take on extra responsibility at home? Keeping score is the fastest ways to develop bitterness in any relationship. Remember that a relationship isn’t a competition, it’s a collaboration. Instead of keeping scores, keep in mind determine the fact that what’s best for your relationship to sailing smoothly. Consider the most nurturing thing for both of you? Focus on them rather than scoring points off each other in a relationship.

Compare Themselves To Others

In relationships, it’s often easier to think that the grass is greener on the other side. Happy couples know that comparison may lead to feelings of dissatisfaction & gloominess in the relationship. If you’re feeling a bit resentful because your colleague buys his wife the most expensive gifts, or your social circle friends are about to take their second exotic trip within a year time, stop let it disturb your inner peace. Instead of focusing on what your deepest desires, focus on the things you do got and appreciate them. Focus on all the things you love about your partner and in your relationship. Let others focus on their relationship and see through their own specs, while you keep your focus on nurturing your relationship.