Why do couples actually come to counseling? You may not have thought about this. Most couples say the main reasons they seek for therapy are for finance, sex, and parenting. But one of the major reasons is that each person is frustrated in their search for acceptance. It's the therapist's duty to help the couple get to the core of the issue and share their feelings.
However, in this article Marriage Counselor, Shivani Misri Sadhoo talks about the top reason couples really come for counseling and it may surprise you. Here they are.
To Communicate Better
You all want to learn how to communicate better, correct? Conflict can occur whenever you feel your partner does not understand or hear you and this can be challenging to every and any couple at some point in their relationship irrespective of how amazing or strong their relationship is. Learning to communicate better is actually more about learning to listen and developing self-awareness around why you don’t. Sometimes you just need a neutral party to help you understand where that missing link is. This is why counseling is crucial for improving communication.
To Get Closer
You may not recognize this, but there is a huge number of couples out there that actually seek out counseling services to improve their already strong relationships every day. Premarital counseling helps couples who are about to get married learn more about each other and prepare for anxieties and issues in the future.
To Prioritize Their Relationship
Let’s admit it, you are all so busy as a society you rarely have time for yourselves, let alone have the time to prioritize our relationship sometimes. Date nights mostly come out of necessity, i.e. want to have dinner? purely for the fact that you both need to eat, not because you want to connect and you struggle with coping through your own emotions and stress from the day that once you see your partner you are ready to just unplug, not reconnect. There’s is nothing bad with experiencing a low or the routine that helps you unwind, the problem arises when you are so deep in the rut you cannot connect with your partner anymore
Couples want to avoid this dilemma, or some may, in reality, be experiencing a lack of connection because of their schedules and rut have consumed them. Counseling is a regular time and place that lest you both connect which forces you to get out of your regular day-to-day stresses and helps you to prioritize your relationship.
To Talk Through Uncomfortable Topics
Uncomfortable topics can vary from sex, misunderstandings, differing values, and family dynamics. Uncomfortable topics are somehow easy to avoid initially but become more complexed to shy away from when your lives really begin merging into one. Counseling is a safe, mediated atmosphere that supports both of you when you have difficult things to discuss. It is a way of keeping you from escalating immediately and getting defensive, so you actually get to hear what the other person is trying to say. Counseling can be really helpful in learning to hear and understand your partner without jumping to your own conclusions.
To Repair Conflict And To Learn How To Have Healthy Conflict
Yes! Couples definitely come to counseling because something really unwanted happened and they cannot seem to get over it, or there has been a recurring conflict that both are feeling stuck in. Conflict is a part of a healthy relationship and you do not always have the tools on how to effectively handle it. You kept having the same argument time and again about petty things and couples finally sought out counseling to help figure out why and how to solve it.
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