Reasons Why Letting Go Is So Hard

Sometimes in your life, you reach a position where you are forced to let go of a person who you felt you loved or thought loved you, a friend, a family member, you think it, it has got an expiry date. All things do end.

But endings never get easier. Bidding goodbyes are difficult because by the time you have to say them, normally, you have built memories, discovered more about yourself and due to the person or place that you are leaving.

You have grown together, but you are at a gridlock now and you both feel it. You cannot grow more together beyond this. You know this is the time, but it is very difficult. Goodbyes are a reality, but they still can get you by surprise at times and have always had the capabilities to break your hearts.

Letting someone go emotionally after the person has left or a moment has ended can be hard for several factors.

Here are some reasons why letting go is so hard which is being shared by Top Psychologist, Marriage Counselor, Relationship Expert and Founder of Saarthi Counselling Services Shivani Misri Sadhoo.

You Might Not Feel Secure To Let Go. Because You Feel What If This Could Be The Best

Letting go give rises to questions like no other. It brings about several uncertainties about the future. But just imagine, what kind of adventure would life be if you all knew? Apart from what is safe anyway?

Each decision is a full risk, just various kinds of risk potentials. Moving on without the person or groups that you felt you would always need is not simple, but on the moment that you got up and realize that you are still living after the loss of what you could not imagine living without, your approach shifts,  majority of the times for the better. However, it still consumes time. You accept letting things go better in patches.

You Continue To See It The Way You Imagine, Not The Other Way Around

Your memory keeps on replay the scenes repeatedly in your mind from beginning to end. You are finding clues that made things heading downwards. You ponder what could have changed. What could you have done differently?

It breaks your heart but you keep on thinking if it was your fault by any means. You still see what could have been. You keep visualizing and hoping for what you are thinking to be what you are experiencing rather than the reality. Kindly, pinch yourself. You are alive and awake. The quicker you realize this, the better you will be able to process this ordeal and heal.

You Are Still Perceiving It As A Failure And Not Part Of The Process

When things get over, you could be tempted to perceive it as you failing to keep things alive. You can become quite focused on how you might have been better and seeing the other person as being the right all the time. You have to know that both parties are human. You are certainly not a failure and you have not failed simply because you need to say goodbye. Relationships do not last forever the way you want to have.

Even good people stop seeing eye to eye, sometimes it is only for the time to let go. It does not mean that it gets simpler, but it would benefit you to see how it is only a part of the process of living. Highs and lows are what the journeys and life are made of.

You Are Holding It Tighter Because You Know This Is Over

There are times, you are supposed to let go even before you are ready and there is no communication for follow up, no last words, no clearing the doubts. Probably you knew it was coming, perhaps you did not.

Both ways, it hurts. You need to let go of who this person has been and what they have contributed in your life and you still wish them to stay. You do not want to have to process. You still feel you can change their mind. Thus, you hold on. You keep texting, praying, hoping, and in the process, you keep hurting. You know you need to let go, but it is almost like recognizing it makes you grip on tighter. Teach yourself to relax, and to release the breath slowly. Let them go since they want to go. True love is never enforced. You understand this. Opt to trust the process.

Healing is scarcely pain-free or fast. Lean into what you are feeling, and then take measures beyond what you are experiencing. Because you cannot live there. And if there is anything you need you to do, it is to keep living. Continuing breathing. Let go, steadily. One day, the pain of the memory will be gone, although the memory never will. You will see that you have not faded with the pain. You will realize that you are made of much more than you have ever imagined. Keep living.