How to know if have fallen in true love?

Valentine’s Day is near, some of us have yet not fallen in love, some have fallen in love but are not sure if it’s true love or not and for some love means the most content happening of their lives. Today relationship counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo shares some tips on how to know if you have truly fallen in love.

1. Real love communicates in a healthy way: remember in real love there is no space for blaming, accusing and dictating. If you are the one who is bringing such communication in your relationship, then learn to communicate with helping attitude and not as imposing. Something like learn to start sentences with “In my opinion" and “I think it’s a better option” etc.

Also, don't let anyone project onto you what you are thinking or feeling. Remember blame games, power plays, ego plays are the ingredients of dysfunctional relationships. The only way to win is not to play. Healthy relationships are about sensible and honest and transparent communication.

2. Real love involves goals and aspirations as a couple:  If you are in love learn to understand the difference between adjustment and self-suppression.  In a healthy relationship you don’t kill your own dreams and hopes for the sake of adjustment rather it’s about finding what your partner wants in his or her life. This goes for both the partners. So first figure out what you want to do in your life, then learn what your partner wants to do in his/her life and then set your goals as a couple that you both will fulfil together.

3. Learn to make choices in life: don’t invest blindly in the relationships you have in your life. Prior investing your time and trust on your colleagues, friends or someone you meet somewhere, judge the person and make choices. Try to choose people who are loving, respectful, honest, open, and who care about you. Choose people who know that trust is earned and that once broken, it's next to impossible to build it again. Choose people who do not keep you guessing about how they feel, or how they feel about you. Choose people who are not ambivalent about you or their relationship with you.