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How to fight addiction?

An article by Shivani Misri Sadhoo, Counselor Psychologist Based in Delhi.
Addiction—dependence on a particular substance or activity—is one of the most important, difficult, and complex areas of mental health. Addiction can be difficult to treat, and there is a good deal of controversy surrounding the causes of addiction and the best approaches to treatment. Many people assume that we can only become addicted to substances that exert a physical effect on the body such as alcohol or drugs, but many activities can become addictions including gambling, shopping, using the internet, and even sex. When you engage in activities that make you feel happy – such as a shopping spree, winning a bet or having sex with someone new – your brain releases ‘feel-good’ chemicals that encourage you to repeat that behavior because it provides such an enjoyable ‘high’. However, if seeking out the ‘high’ has developed into a compulsive and uncontrollable desire to engage with the activity in spite of the …

How to improve Parents & Adolescent relationship?

An article by Relationship Psychologist in Delhi - Shivani Misri Sadhoo,

Walking on eggshells. Parents do love us and want what’s best for us, and doing what they ask will be a great way to have a stable life The parent-child relationship is one of the longest lasting social ties human beings establish,” said Kira Birditt. Nothing has a greater impact on our lives than our families. It is the most powerful unit of society, influencing and shaping every man, woman and child for good or for the bad. This tie is often highly positive and supportive but it also commonly includes feelings of irritation, tension and ambivalence. Also sometimes there is plenty of pain in families. In fact, people are more profoundly hurt by those in their own family than anywhere else. Parents hurt their children and children hurt parents. Many people carry the wounds and scars they receive in their home for the rest of their lives.

Research suggests that tension is related to a variety of topics, including …

What is fear of commitment? What causes commitment phobia?

How to handle betrayal by spouse? - Insight by Shivani Misri Sadhoo, Marriage Counselor in Delhi

Betrayal is one of the most painful human experiences. Discovering that someone we trusted has deeply hurt us pulls the reality rug from under our feet. It feels like you were taken advantage of, deceived, humiliated, despised, cheated, or stabbed in the back.

It comes as a surprise; that is why it is so painful. So you are left in disbelief and unbelievable pain.
But somehow, when we see or hear the word ‘betrayal’ we immediately think of ‘affair’. It is bad enough when a stranger or foe betrays you, but when it is someone you believed to be a close and trusted friend, partner, or spouse, it is more hurtful. But betrayal can be of any kind, and from trusted sources.
Anyone who has experienced betrayal in a marital or pre-marital relationship knows how difficult it is to recover from such an experience. You go through a multitude of emotions and question yourself a lot. The person you thought you could trust and count on is no longer the person you believed them to be. So you wonder wha…

How do you handle emotional pain?

What do you do when it feels like your life is falling apart?  Crises happen. When life gets messy, and it most reliably does, it is at times harder than hard to keep ourselves upright and unified in the middle of the craziness. Our bodies do weird things. Our brains do even weirder things in response. We get swallowed up by traumas from the past, engulfed by something that has happened, is happening, or that we’re terrified won’t ever stop happening.

Many people experienced feelings of “Why me?” “What have I done to deserve this?” although some offset this by saying that it could happen to anyone and there were people worse off than them. 
However, these feelings could resurface when people were having a particularly bad time.
Furthermore, the daily mix of worldly and personal woes is endless: kids struggling, marriages exploding, businesses collapsing, people dying, friends hurting, countries starving, contingencies battling, and bodies ailing.
Feelings of anxiety, frustration, anger, lo…