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How to talk to your Son about Periods?

Imagine yourself in a situation; your son will reach his puberty in next couple of years and you want him to reach this critical age with complete understanding of how a man and woman’s body works. This is not an imagination, but most of us either have already faced this situation or will going to face it in future.
Shivani Misri Sadhoo, an eminent psychologist in Delhi, today’s shares her tips on how to talk to your son about periods.
First you should start a direct conversation with your son; don’t run in circles, tell him about periods and patiently answer all his questions. Be as straightforward as you can. You can start your conversation like:
1. In your school you have seen older boys, their voices sound heavy like your father’s. This happens because when boys grow up they pass through a phase where lot of physical changes take place, both inside and outside of the body. This phase is called puberty.
2. During puberty a boy’s voice change, hair grows in his facial and genital region…

How do you know if you are ready for marriage?

For those who are wondering if it’s right time or when it will be the right time to plan your marital life, marriage counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo suggests everyone to answer the following questions to decide if they are ready or not, to get married:-
1. First ask why you want to get married? 
Be honest and evaluate the reasons behind your engagement. You can list your pros and cons of a marriage. The major issues that come up are about the loss of freedom in marriage. You have to account for the other person in all your decisions. There will be more family obligations when you are married. Ask yourself if you are ready for these challenges?
2. Similarly, note down the things you are missing being single.
On the other hand, wanting a spouse to support you through life's ups and downs is a big motivation for marriage. Also, having a steady companion for meals and leisure time seems to be high on the list "for" marriage. It is up to you to weigh the pros and the cons and to …

Bedtime Stories Can Boost Your Child's Growth; More Than You Can Imagine

Today children are getting highly exposed to visual stimulation from mobile apps, game consoles, and television–what most cartoons and mobile games offer is constant observations, amusement and information storage, nothing else. Hence at home children rarely get an opportunity to exercise their imaginations, creativity and to learn patience. 
Child psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo says today every parent must built a habit of bedtime storytelling at home. She says storytelling is a simple but a very effective tool to cultivate imagination, teaches life's values and patience at an early stage of a child’s life. Today under better parenting tips - Shivani shares major benefits of bedtime storytelling habit.
a. Improves Bonding
Bedtime storytelling offers an opportunity where parents can give undivided attention to their child. As parents take time out from their hectic schedules to give children quality, undivided attention, this resonates with children -showing them they are importan…

Steps to Keeping Your Cool and Saving Your Relationships - Tips by Relationship Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo

You may image or you might already have experienced this situation - one unfortunate day your best friend or co-worker or your partner tell you something insulting, hurts you, screams at you and you forget that moment that they might be suffering from a momentary mood swing or they might have miss-understood you and YOU DON’T WAIT and insult them back, scream back at them – risking, weakening or even destroying your relationships. 
Relationship counsellor Shivani Sadhoo suggests that when we are under anger attack from our loved ones, the first instinct that works for us is – either to fight back immediately or getting shocked or surprised how to react – these two reactions generally make the situation worse.
The right thing one should practice is MINDFULNESS. That is building the ability to judge and understand the crisis situation first and then react accordingly. Here are some simple steps to improve your interpersonal skills and to save your valuable relationships in the time of a f…

How to spend “quality” time with our Children?

Spending quality time with our children is extremely important for their overall development and happiness. Unfortunately, today the time we spend with our children has become very precious; on one hand our kids are burdened with their homework and school activities and on the other hand parents too are forced to spend more and more time outside their home - due professional commitments, traffic congestion, and distanced workplaces. 
Child PsychologistShivani Misri Sadhoo shares that time spent with kids doesn’t need to be elaborate or long, JUST make it “qualitative”. She shares some practical tips on how we can maximize the time with have with our children.
1. Be mentally present with your childSometimes we can be physically at home but mentally our minds are miles away. We become distracted at home because we bring home stress from the outside world, so much so that when we’re with our children, we get unwarily irritable, angry and bored. Remember - children have the ability to sense…

How To Make Your Relationship Stand The Test Of Time

Each day, we have the opportunity to make our relationships even stronger than they were a day before. Sometimes all it takes is a slight change in our behaviour to make our partner feel more loved, more heard, and more accepted. Marriage CounselorShivani Misri Sadhoo suggests few simple things that can bring back the spark and make all the difference in your relationship.

1. Take that extra step
If you notice that your partner is particularly busy, take the extra step to make his or her life easier. Maybe cleaning dishes isn’t normally your chore but if you see your partner barely has had time to breathe, make an exception and tackle that sink full of dirty plates when your maid in on leave.

2. Never stop dating.
Between jobs, kids, friends and housework, our lives can get pretty full. Instead of making your marital life a routine timetable, figure out one day in a month when you both can leave your kids with your parents or with a relative (if possible), take a leave from office and go …

Marriage isn’t the end of dating. It's the beginning of a brand new chapter of your life.

Whether you are just thinking about getting engaged or your wedding is in next 3 months, the best time to work on your marriage is before it starts.  Too often “getting married” feels like we are moving into a major destination of life and the magical relationship should take place that we have been searching for. But marriage isn’t the end of dating… it’s the beginning of a brand new chapter of your life. Here are some reasons that you should try a premarital coach, suggests marriage counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo.
Premarital counselling helps couples to develop effective communication style and conflict resolution skills – essential for a healthy marriage. In today’s lifestyle, the scope of a husband and a wife to spend quality time with each other has reduced drastically. Couples must learn to communicate with each other effectively because the comprehensiveness of mistakes and learning in marital life today has compressed in the last one decade.Premarital counselling helps a coupl…

Tips to Strengthen Your Relationship for Long Term - Shared by Delhi's Eminent Marriage Counselor

Ever wondered what you should do to make your relationship long lasting or have you checked yourself if you are doing everything fine to make your relationship long lasting? Relationship Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo shares (eminent psychologist in Delhi) some simple yet effective tips to make a relationship strong and long lasting.
1. Attention is your best gift: Attentiveness has the capacity to demonstrate commitment in any kind of relationship; it's an unspoken way to tell a person that you care and value him/her. If you are feeling tired or something has occupied your mind that can weaken your attention when your partner is telling you something – express your situation and request to postpone the discussion. You may hurt your partner at that moment, but it's far better if you pretend that you’re paying attention.
2. Accept your partner is a human being not God: Every human has both the positive and negative aspects, avoid being judgmental or refrain from talking about yo…

Tips to Promote Healthy Eating in Kids

Most of the parents today are facing problems to inculcate good eating habits in their kids. The kids are just demanding more and more fast foods, soda drinks, artificial fruit juices and they are reducing their intake of homemade foods. To tackle such situations, Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo shares some parenting tips to promote healthy eating habits among children.
1. First of all don’t let your child believe that healthy food means dull and non-exciting looking food. Learn to experiment with dishes if your child refuses to eat vegetables, try to prepare vegetable cutlets with interesting shapes. Similarly, you can try giving your child mango shakes, homemade fruit juices and you can stop bring soda drinks inside your house.
2. Try to avoid buying bulk economic packs: If you are in a mall or in a cinema hall and you HAVE to treat your child with a hamburger, try to buy the smallest pack possible and avoid economy bulk meals from fast food chains.

3. Try to avoid eating alone in fr…

What does "loving ourselves" means?

Check if you really know how to loving yourself - by Relationship Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo
We have heard the phrase “love ourselves” too often but what does loving ourselves actually mean? Do you know really how to love ourselves? Is it different from treating us with buying some goodies or enjoying some activities? Delhi’s eminent relationship counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo answers to these questions here:-
To know more what the term ‘loving ourselves” really mean, let’s visualize some adverse life situations like getting fired from a job, failing to pass an examination, separations, divorce, etc. Then ask yourself how you will perceive in such situation:-
a. You will blame yourself for your failure, partially or fully you will blame your external factors and you will accept that you weren't worth for succeeding in such situation.
b. You will scrutinize the situations and try to understand – how and why you misjudged and misinterpreted and you will accept that mistakes & …

How to Love Your Job More

There are many amongst us, who are missing the delectation to come to their office, it’s true that a lot of job satisfaction is dependent on the office environment but, many areas an employee too can explore to make their daily office LIFE – exciting. Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo shares some scientific ways to love their job more and to make every day an exciting place to work for:-
1. Schedule and prioritize your tasks
The first thing in the morning you should do in office - is to schedule your tasks for the day. This will help you to make the right decisions (which sometimes can turn stressful) like - how much time you can afford to a single task, how much work you should delegate, what are the pending tasks etc.
2. Spruce up your workspace
One great way to make yourself happier at the workplace is to enhance your workspace. This means redecorating your workstation, exchange your office chair (if it’s uncomfortable), clean your computer’s desktop. This will help you to feel comfort…