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Simple and powerful techniques for coping with Anxiety and Worry

Thinking about dangers and risks is a normal phenomenon, it help us to stay alert and to become a good problem solver. It’s only when worrying gets out of person’s control,  it turns into a problem. If a person is constantly preoccupied with “what if " and worst-case scenarios, worry turns onto the cause of high pulse rate, insomnia, poor mental and physical health. Here are few simple steps to cope with anxiety and worry.

1. Breathing technique:  The first thing to do when you get anxious is to take deep breath. Deep breathing is a powerful anxiety-reducing technique because it activates the body’s relaxation response. Try slowly inhaling to a count of 5, filling your belly first and then your chest, gently holding your breath to a count of 5, and slowly exhaling to a count of 5 and repeat several times.
2. Accept that you’re anxious: Remember anxiety is just a feeling, like any other feeling, by reminding yourself that anxiety is simply an emotional reaction, you can start to acc…

Mindfulness can Boost your Career and Personal Life

Have you ever started driving somewhere and after reaching your destination you realise that you remember nothing about your journey? Or you been eating a burger, taken a couple of bites then noticed all you are left with an empty packet in your hand? And you didn’t notice “most of” when and how you have finished your burger? These are common examples of "mindlessness," or "going on an automatic pilot mode."
In our today’s busy life, we are constantly doing multi-tasking and we are losing awareness of the present moment – either because we have stopped giving importance to our present moment, like eating or when we are doing task 1, our mind already starts planning, judging, mapping – task 2, task 3, task 4 so on and so forth.
The key to bring positive changes in our career and in our personal life is to actively notice every moment of life — including work, people, and the environment – in other words live in the present.
When we commit to noticing new things in your…

How to recover from an intense break-up pain?

Most of us are aware of the break-up pain; some of us have faced it or we have witnessed it with our friends and loved ones. Some of us have tried to support our friends to overcome their painful post-break-up phase. But heartache can sometimes turn extremely unbearable, hence Psychologist Shivani MisriSadhoo, (an Eminent Relationship Counsellor in Delhi) suggests some tips that you can follow yourself or you can suggest your friend or loves ones if they are passing through a break-up.
a.   Don't do self-torture; it’s inevitable that memory about your ex will keep flashing time and again but do not try to entertain them with activities like – flipping through photo album (pic with your ex), visiting the restaurant where you regularly had meal with your ex, keep bringing out your ex’s gifts from closet. Instead, try to put yourself in situations that will cheer you up like – shopping, eating ice-cream, hang out with your best friend.
b.  Don’t panic: unfortunately, the older we get t…

Has your child started saying “NO” too frequently? Here are some effective parenting tips

As a parent, it's not uncommon to sometimes ask yourself, "Am I doing this right?" especially in situation like you child starts replying “NO” frequently,  like not to stop watching television, will not finish the meal, saying no to study etc. Then the question comes to every parent's mind if this is normal or not or how can we fix this issue, generally parents conclude that his will get fixed with time as the child grew up or it’s a common phenomenon in every house, we are no exception.
Shivani Misri Sadhoo (Psychologist) suggest parents not judge your child’s refusals and before you trying to make your ‘NO’ stronger or violent, think on the following points:-
a.    Avoid disciplining kids when they are hungry or tired: When kids are tired or hungry, they won’t be focused on what you are trying to teach them. Like if your child is tired after coming back from the school and started watching television, at that moment if you tell them to switch off the TV, they will co…

How to resolves conflicts effectively in relationships?

Great relationships develop not from the absence of conflict but from the way it is resolved, a two-way mature and intelligent approach to resolving conflict is what essential for a healthy relationship, believes Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo. She suggests the rule of engagement is not to try to avoid fighting but developing a mature attitude to resolve conflicts intelligently. Remember, suppressing dislikes or doubts about your partner are temporary solutions and more than doing any good, suppression can turn love sour in the course of time. If you care about someone, then consider adopting these rules as part of the way you communicate with them when you are trying to express your dislikes or if you are trying to resolve conflicts.
1.   While expressing your dislikes, remember yelling is wastage of emotional energy, not a medium to take you seriously.
2.   If your partner yells first, remember that there can be multiple factors that can cause your partner to yell. It may be a tempo…

Simple Tips to Avoid Harmful Psychological Effects of Traffic Jam

The monsoon has brought us relief from scorching summer heat; we should be in a joyful mood, isn’t it? Unfortunately, the monsoon also brings worst kind of traffic congestions, especially in the metropolitan cities. 
We all know how irritating and frustrating it is to get stuck in jams; but Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo, it’s not just traffic jam we should worry about, it’s the stress and frustration from jam that do us more harm. The South Delhi based eminent psychologist hence shares some effective tips to stay calm and relaxed during a jam.
1. If you get stuck in a traffic jam, accept that there is nothing else you can do; your irritation and stress won’t help the cars in front of you to move.
2. Keep a good collection of relaxing music in your car: it’s better to listen to a good music than worrying about the jam.
3. Use the toilet before you sit in your car; so you don’t end up waiting painfully to use a loo.

4. While waiting in your car you may try a neck rest pillow (if you find…

How to find happiness in small things? - Article by Shivani Misri Sadhoo (an eminent psychologist in Delhi)

Everyone wants to be happy, yet joy is elusive for most people. One big reason is people tend to expect their happiness to come from big things like – buying a house, increment, new job etc. But big things are conditioned to time and external factors (you may give your best in the job, still your promotion can be a factor to the company’s performance and profitability, which is not in your hand).  One must remember that life is made up of little things, to have a truly happy, peaceful existence, it is necessary to find happiness in small things., Psychologist Shviani Misri Sadhoo (Psychologist based in South Delhi) suggests some tips that will help us to find joy in small things in life.

We know the old saying; spending on materialistic things can’t give us happiness but in reality there's a very logical assumption that most people make when spending their money: that because a physical object will last longer, it will make us happier for a longe…

How to know if a separating or divorcing couple needs counselling or not?

Many of us have either experience the painful ordeal of separation ourselves or we have witnessed it amongst our loved ones. Be it be the separation before marriage or divorce, the unfortunate incidence brings us unbearable emotional sufferings in the form of pain, anger, confusion and betrayal. These sufferings generally surface in the form of depression and anxiety – and generally we believe it will get cure with time.
But Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo (Relationship Counsellor based in Delhi), suggests that intense grief can alter a person’s trust, optimism, even behaviour that may impact their future lives. Hence, if the person feels that he or she is finding it difficult to move on after separation or divorce, he/she should take professional help.
Relationship counsellors are trained psychologists who can help people who are separating and/or divorcing, to deal with their grief and anger and help them to let go, so that they can move on with a new sense of purpose and optimism…

How Social networking sites can ruin your friendship?

Social networking sites have become the integral part our life. We know it’s the best way to keep in touch and communicate with our friends in today’s busy lifestyle.
However, Relationship Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo (an eminent Psychologist in South Delhi) suggests that too much dependency to interact with our friends on social networking sites can ruin our friendships too – here are the reasons:
a. Receiving too many updates; as much as we love our friends, hearing too frequently about the every detail of their life - can turn us off with the idea of hanging out with them more frequently.
b. False sense of what is going in our friend’s life: sometimes our friend may be maintaining a positive outlook online, but in reality they may be passing through a low phase. In comparison to Facebook or Twitter updates, a telephonic call, that is listening to our friend’s voice always had better possibilities in which we can sense what is really happing in his/her life.
c. Lack of depth-full con…

It's Not Just Phone Radiations, Smartphones has other means too, to harm our emotional and mental health

Today we use smartphones in every possible moment of life; it makes our life easy in every imaginable situation from managing professional contacts, to ordering food, to getting navigational assistance, to paying bills etc. But have you ever wondered, what is the price we would pay if we turn completely dependent or addicted to our smartphones? Smartphones can increase the chances of sleep disorders, lack of concentration, slows a child's socio-emotional growth, can cause compulsive nature etc.
Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo suggests that apart from harmful phone radiations; smartphones and tablets has other ways too, to harm our mental & emotional health.
1.Smartphone Causes sleep disorder: When a person stares at the backlit portable screen of the phone or tablet, it shines short-wavelength, blue light, into the eyes. This stimulates the brain, telling it to stay alert and when Smartphone is used extensively post evening time, the chances are high that body will not relea…

Shopping arguments with your spouse - Why Women love to Shop and Men hate it?

Though it's not a general phenomenon but we may witness or even experience ourselves that weekend shopping sometimes ends up into an argument or a fight. 
Sometimes a wife or a girlfriend may interpret their partner’s shopping boredom as; “my partner does not care for my liking (how much I love to shop) or he does not understand that by jumping from shop to shop I am buying best for the family”. Similarly, a man may find his partner’s shopping habit as a wastage of time or may interpret that his partner can't make a good purchase decision. But in reality that is not always the case. According to some recent studies, the reason lies back in the Caveman times.
In the caveman times, men used to hunt for wild animals while women used to search and gather plants, nuts, fruit, and vegetables. Anthropologists believe that after living thousands of years by hunting and gathering things, the instinct still exists in us from our ancestors. When most women shop, they are in more of a '…