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Is Being "Busy" A Disease?

I saw a dear friend a few days ago and I stopped by to ask her how she was doing, how her family was. She looked up, voice lowered, and just whimpered: “I’m so busy… I am so busy… have so much going on.”
Almost immediately after, I ran into another friend and asked him how he was. Again, same tone, same response: “I’m just so busy… got so much to do.” Up, voice lowered, and just whimpered: “I’m so busy… I am so busy… have so much going on.” The tone was exasperated, burnt out and staggering.
How did we end up living like this? Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we do this to our children? When did we forget that we are human beings, not human doings? Do we have to love our children so much that we over-schedule them, making them stressed and busy — just like us?
What happened to the world in which we can sit with the people we love so much and have slow conversations about the state of our heart and soul, conversations that slowly unfold, conversations with pregnant pauses and si…

Why Is It So Difficult to Ask For Professional Help?

For many people, going to therapy is a hot-button issue. The idea somehow implies that a person in therapy is weak, unable to manage their problems, downright “crazy,” or just seeking attention. But regardless of your feelings, you almost certainly know and care about someone who is currently in therapy or has been at some point.
Counseling and Psychotherapy can be an instrumental tool for growth and healing. Psychotherapy is a relationship and a dialogue. The mental wellness community is making tremendous strides to educate the public on the truths about therapy. 

As a therapist, I am frequently asked how I can sit with people all day talking about their problems, depression, anxiety, trauma, marital discord, relationship difficulties, grief, and loss. Isn’t it exhausting and laborious?
The truth: Some of the healthiest people I know are in therapy.
A therapist’s office is a place where you can float ideas to a trained professional who will not judge your decisions or desires. If a p…

4 Important Tips to become an Awesome Partner

Throughout our life, our pre and post marital relationship continuously change with a change in circumstances, the level of stress, growing of kids, professional demands, and the everyday ups and down that you and your partner experiences.
A major reason of romantic relationship degradation is when one or both the partners misses to identify and understand these changes and change their approach toward's life accordingly.
So how can you respond to relationship changes? Relationship and Marriage Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo says a great starting place is to evaluate your own contributions to your relationship. What are you doing that helps—or hurts—your relationship happiness? How are your actions and beliefs influencing the quality of your and your partner’s everyday interactions?
Counsellor Shivani today shares some vital tips for couples on how to become an effective and awesome partner, i.e. ideal partners who are capable of driving out their relationship wonderfully in every s…

Are Indian Cool With Older Wife? Hindustan Times Features Marriage Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo

How to Handle Emotional Abuse in Relationship and Marriage?

Emotional abuse is one form of abuse which people can experience in a relationship. Though emotional abuse doesn’t leave physical scars, it generally has huge impact on victim’s confidence, self-esteem and can lead them to depression and suicide. However, if you are being emotionally abused, there are a number of things you can do to get support.
Emotional abuse in relationships, marriage, is sneaky because while abuse is taking place, no physical marks or scars ever appear. Often the only sign that something is wrong in emotionally abusive relationships is just a feeling that something is amiss. Often the victim can't quite put their finger on it, but to outsiders, there is often no doubt that emotional abuse is taking place.
Generally, an emotional abusive relationship is a difficult situation and it turns into a cycle where the victim falls in the web of the abuser, gradually. In the initial stage of such a relationship, the victim does not identify if it’s a maliciously intended…