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Do you know 80% of us hold our breath while reading emails?

Email Apnea is one major reason for work stress, headache, and weak concentration.
While reading or writing emails 80% of people simply “forget” to breathe properly, they either hold their breath for long or slow it down. This phenomenon called, “email apnea” or “screen apnea”.and is one of the primary reason of having headache and anxiety in the workspace.  Holding or slowing breath causes deficit of oxygen flow to the brain and results in headaches, increased stress, loss of concentration and fatigue.
So what can you do to “breathe right” when you are focusing 100% on writing / reading emails or on the computer screen, since email apnea happens unconsciously?
A simple Pranayama exercise you can use anytime throughout the day to restore oxygen flow to your brain is called Sama Vritti or “equal breathing”. Take 10 minutes break from your work routine and sit upright and comfortably on office chair and place your hands on your knees.Close your eyes and simply notice your breath, without tr…

Passionate Love vs Compassionate Love?

It is true, no word and sentence is enough to define love; one can understand it only when he/she falls in love. But do you know love can be passionate, compassionate and or the both. Today Relationship Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo shares what is compassionate and passionate love.
Compassionate love is primarily characterized by two people’s mutual respect, attachment, affection, and trust. Compassionate love usually develops out of feelings of mutual understanding and shared respect for one another. Passionate love on another hand is characterized by intense emotions, sexual attraction, anxiety, and affection.
Passionate love generally arises when the two people meet each other’s preconceived ideas of an ideal love, and when they both experience physiological arousal in the presence of the other person.
Generally, passionate love doesn’t last more 6 months to 2 years, then ideally it should mature into compassionate love, which is far more enduring.

Everyone desires their relationship…

The "Coming out Experience" of a Gay, Lesbian and Homosexual Person

The psychologist community in recent times has found out and has confirmed that Gay, Lesbian and Homosexuality are not a disorder but a form of sexual expression. Psychologists suggest that one of the important incidences in the life of LGBT is the coming experience. In fact , coming out is more a process than an experience and research has found out that same-sex couples who are openly gay are more satisfied in their relationships. For women who self-identify as lesbians, the more people know about her sexual orientation, the less anxiety, more positive affectivity, and greater self-esteem she has. Today Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo shares what is the coming out experience and what are the stages one possibly experiences in their coming out experience.
What is the 'coming out' experience of an LGBT person?
Coming out is a process of understanding, accepting, and valuing a person’s sexual identity. It involves both exploring a person’s own identity and it's impact with o…

Questions One Must Ask During a Bad Phase of Relationship

Sometimes bad phase in a relationship becomes so strained that intellectual possibilities to overcome bad situations by the couple get hijacked with pain, feeling of betrayal and confusion. Generally, such a condition itself snowballs into end of a relationship. If you know someone going through such unfortunate situation, then you can share with them the following tips by Delhi’s eminent Relationship Counsellor, Shivani Misri Sadhoo.
1. First, couple should ask themselves, if they are destroying themselves, hurting their partner and their relationship, based on anger and strong emotions? If yes, then slow down and evaluate. Avoid confronting your partner until you’re calm and can carefully weigh your bad relationship phase.
2. Secondly, couple should avoid assumptions like their current state of unhappiness is solely the fault of the relationship; there could be other issues too, like bad financial situation, unnecessary attraction towards a colleague, frustration in career etc. Rememb…

How to Improve Concentration Power Among Kids?

Concentration is an essential component of every child’s development; it is required to perform well in academic, to do effective social interaction, to develop leadership & confidence and to learn life skills.
Generally, the level of concentration and focus among kids varies as per their level of mental & physical tiredness, addiction to TV or mobile games, peer influence, etc. However if kids are not supported and encouraged by parents to increase their focus and concentration, they may develop permanently a poor concentration level, all through their childhood. 
Today, child psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo shares some important parenting tips on how to improve a child’s concentration power.
1. Develop positive habits in your child: like doing homework, eating dinner, going to bed at the same hour every day. Repeating the same activity every day at the same hour, eventually, turns it into a habit. If a child sits down for homework every day at the same hour, after a while, wh…

How to deal with negative and unpleasant people?

A human being is generally conditioned to his/her environment and situations. Unfortunate situations like bad health, strained relationships, financial issues or personal loss can turn your colleagues, neighbours or friend’s behaviour unpleasant and negative. In a satiation where you have to deal with such a person every day then what you will do; will you avoid, ignore or confront the person? Likely in all these three options you will lose your peace of mind. Today Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo share tips on how to deal with people who are negative or unpleasant.
1. Resist the urge of being judgemental. Generally, the first urge that comes to mind if someone is unpleasant to us is to be judgemental; we tell ourselves that the person is an idiot, jerk, nonsense etc.  Remember tagging the person may give you momentary comfort from the insult but if you have to deal with the person every day, such a judgement will just make the things get worse day by day.
2. Be compassionate but also…

How to Build Confidence, Self-Assurance and Self-Esteem in Kids

Confidence is a child’s passport to a lifetime of positive mental health, social happiness and long-term academic & professional progress. In other words self-assurance and self-esteem during childhood can be termed as the foundation for every child to lead a positive life and to get well prepared for the future.
However, in today’s demanding academic structure, it is not easy for a child to maintain a good confidence level, from competing nursery admission to weekly school tests, today’s child goes through numerous examinations, almost every day in his/her life and he/she is being judged both at home and outside. According to child psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo, oral communication alone by parents is not enough to build confidence in kids, she shares some important parenting tips that will help parents in this area:
1. Allow your child to make decisions:
When your child gets the chance to make choices from a young age, he/she will build confidence in their own judgement. Just co…

Don’t Practice Too much Self Control

Self-control is the ability to control one's emotions, behavior, and desires in the face of external demands. In psychology, it is also termed as self-regulation. It is true that self-control is an essential ingredient to achieve goals in life, for an example, one cannot meet weight loss target if he/she do not restrict their own desires to eat and sleep. Most of us believe that self-control is a quality that make us better than the rest but do you know that there are many prices one has to pay to maintain self-control IF WE DO NOT discriminate ‘when to’ and ‘when not to’ use self-control. 
Today Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo shares how too much of self-control can make our life bad.
1. Accepting uncontrolled and unanticipated outcomes become difficult. When a person keeps their self-control unchecked they start believing that all future outcomes can be anticipated and it is the result of cause and effect of past and present actions. This phenomenon is true to some extent, but it…

Television Alters Child’s Brain Structure: How to stop your child from watching TV?

Those who were born in 80’s must have remembered how cartoons programs where only telecasted on Sunday mornings. Now TV has more than 10 channels that telecast children programs for whole day. With abundance of cartoon programs and kids show, today’s children are turning addicted to TV and gradually parents are now finding it difficult to stop their kids from watching Television.
So, why you should stop your child from watching TV?
Recently, Neuroscientists in Japan have out that watching television alters a child’s brain structure. The more hours a child watches the TV, the more his/her brain structure will change. The brain regions that are bulked up in children watching more television include grey matter increases in the hypothalamus, septum, sensory motor areas and visual cortex, but also in a frontal lobe region (frontopolar cortex), which is known to lower verbal IQ.  Tests confirmed that the children’s verbal IQ had lowered in proportion to the hours of TV watched, ranging from …

Overcome pain in a conscious process rather than with uncertainty

Life can never be 100% perfect and we do pass through emotional and mental setbacks, time to time in the form of failed relationships, loss of jobs, negative health events etc. These events are unavoidable, but sometimes we may get emotionally stuck to such an event to such an extent that we end up losing many things in the process. For example, post-breakup a person who keeps on holding the pain may develop a low level of concentration, low  on confidence, become irritable and may lose his/her job or friends who matter to them. So how to overcome pain from failures, rejections and losses in a conscious process and not by uncertainty? Here are some tips you can use or suggest to your loved ones to overcome failure, loss or rejection and regain their normal living:
1. Make yourself remember your goals in life: you may have faced a break-up or job loss, but there are other priorities in life too like your parent’s happiness, you friend’s happiness, your career and they don’t deserve your …