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Ways to become better friends in our life

We all need friends in our bad, good, confused, pained… possibly in every phase, to make our life’s journey, emotionally smooth. But if everyone seeks good friends in life then why is it so that some people get wonderful friends and some remains deprived of good friends.
Relationship counselor, Shivani Misri Sadhoo share that friendship is not just about receiving and taking emotional support, it is the ability to develop and nurture a strong bond with himself/herself first and then with another person. Psychologist Shivani shares that everyone is capable of developing themselves into better friends and experience and enjoy special friendship bond all throughout their lives. These ways are:-
1. Sometimes people believe that being with their friend means being completely carefree. It is true that with friends , we can act freely and /or just be ourselves but that does not mean we can take our friends for granted. When you talk to your friend pay attention not only what s/he is saying but…

MARRIAGE COUNSELLING: SIGNS YOU MIGHT NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP

Enjoying a prolonged beautiful marital life over the decades might seem unrealistic to many people, people believe with passing of time husband and wife cannot be the same way as it was in their first 6 months of marriage. But that is not the truth, when people maintain their cars , they get it serviced once in 6 months or in a year, so that  the wear and tear caused from running the car every day, get fixed. Much like a cars that gets eroded, scratched and dented from constant use, relationships can also show wear and tear over the years. So how do you know if your marriage has hit a rough patch or it's something more serious and require a professional help?
Shivani Misri Sadhoo, an eminent marriage counsellor, South Delhi shares the signs that you might need professional help to rejuvenate your marital life.
1.  There is a decrease in intimacy with your spouse and there is a sudden change of sexual attitude. Either the absence or sudden decrease can be a signal of danger. Most cou…

DEVELOP A SUCESSFUL WORKPLACE TEAM

When there is the right synergy in the organisation, it reflects on the productivity and in the work culture 
The first organisational challenge a manager faces is to develop and maintain a successful workplace team. It’s not easy to manage human beings, be it in the family, a relationship or in an organisation. There are many factors that determine a person’s nature, productivity, emotional tendencies and communication. All those factors that structure human nature and behaviour on a day-to-day or hour-by hour basis can be categorised under two primary influencers–Time and Space. By ‘time’ it means factors that change in the course of a person’s lifetime such as age, hormones, menstruation, health, hours spent awake after last meal, hours devoted for rest and sleep.
If you see closely, the ‘time factor’ directly influences a person’s behaviour, mood and emotions on an hourly basis. By ‘Space’ it means all factors that physically influence the person, like the condition of the work pl…

Powerful Exercises To Increase Mental Strength

Mental strength is a person’s ability to regulate his/her emotions, thoughts and to behave in a positive manner in both exciting and adverse circumstances. Psychologist Shivani  MisriSadhoo shares that developing mental strength is about finding the courage to live according to your values and being bold enough to create your own definition of success. Today Shivani Misri Sadhoo  shares some powerful exercises that can help you to increase your mental strength.  1.  Spend your mental energy wisely The first exercise to enhance mental strength is to focus on situations and matters that is within your control and is worthy of your life and your life’s goal. So you can save your mental energy for productive tasks, such as solving problems or setting goals. When your thoughts aren’t productive, try to make a conscious effort to shift your mental energy to more helpful topics. The more you practice expanding your mental energy wisely, the more it will become a habit. 2. Put efforts to replace …

How to Beat Insomnia?

Countless people in India today suffer from insomnia, i.e. the difficulty to sleep when they get the opportunity to sleep. Blame it on a today’s complex lifestyle or the professional pressure, but the fact is, many of us are faced with a lack of sound sleep. Today, an eminent psychologist in Delhi Shivani Misri Sadhoo shares tips on how to beat insomnia.
1. Set a standard bedtime and wake-up time. When we go to bed and get up at about the same time each day, our bodies and brains learn to expect sleep at the appropriate time. Hence, the first step to fight insomnia is to set a standard go to bed and wake up time. 2. Stick to the sleep schedule regardless of how you sleep each night.  How does it work? if you sleep less and still you get up on time, you're actually increasing your chances of sleeping well the next night. 3. Generally, avoid naps during the day. Time spent awake is an investment in good sleep. Skipping the nap makes it more likely that you’ll be having a sound sleep at…

How to know if have fallen in true love?

Valentine’s Day is near, some of us have yet not fallen in love, some have fallen in love but are not sure if it’s true love or not and for some love means the most content happening of their lives. Today relationship counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo shares some tips on how to know if you have truly fallen in love.
1. Real love communicates in a healthy way: remember in real love there is no space for blaming, accusing and dictating. If you are the one who is bringing such communication in your relationship, then learn to communicate with helping attitude and not as imposing. Something like learn to start sentences with “In my opinion" and “I think it’s a better option” etc. Also, don't let anyone project onto you what you are thinking or feeling. Remember blame games, power plays, ego plays are the ingredients of dysfunctional relationships. The only way to win is not to play. Healthy relationships are about sensible and honest and transparent communication.
2. Real love invol…

How in-Laws Sometimes Can Ruin the Relationships and Marriages?

Parents are the most precious gifts god has given us because of them we are today, what we are.  Then why sometimes, couples face challenges to maintain healthy relationships with each other’s parents. Sometimes these relationship differences turn so sour that it destroys marriages and relationships. Today Delhi’s eminent relationship & family counsellor, Shivani Sadhoo Misri talks on how in-laws can destroy relationships and even marriages so you can check on these matters at the beginning.
a. When the in-laws attempt to be too intrusive: especially, in joint-families, when parents forget to allow their daughter-in-law and their son to spend good time with each other. Generally, in today’s hectic life where both the couples works or one of them works, few minutes prior sleeping is not enough to blossom a relationship.
b. When one partner allows his/her parent to decide their life’s decision, remember your husband or your wife too have their own views especially if they too are invo…

Do you Know Misinterpretation of Cognitive Dissonance Message can Ruin Your Marriage or Relationship?

The term 'cognitive dissonance' means the discomfort of person when his/her self-image collides with reality. Some of you might think it is a new aspect of life, but, in reality, we all, frequently feel this discomfort or witness it in our loved ones. A person’s self-image is based on values and beliefs, and he/she is demanded to work or act outside his/her value’s boundaries.
For example, a husband holds his self-image that he is compassionate and a good listener. One day things at his office don't go too well and he reaches home completely exhausted.  At this moment  his wife (who was waiting for him) complaints that the washing machine is no more working because he didn’t switch it off correctly, last night.
At this moment, this husband may face the conflict between his self-image and current reality. He may ask himself:  “I am a loving and compassionate person. Yet I am not loving and compassionate with my wife at this moment. Therefore, there must be something wrong wit…

Do you know asking the right question is a vital key to motivate someone?

Whether you want your team to achieve a target, a deadline or want your friend to quit drinking and driving habit, asking for behaviour change and motivating people can sometimes become real tough.
Eminent Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo suggests that motivating people is not that tricky, what matters is selecting the right approach. Instead of telling or pushing the person what to do and what not, ask the person the right question. Recent researchers have found that asking a question about future behaviour speeds up an individual’s readiness for change.
So rather than telling your husband that it’s important to invest for post-retirement, question a gentle reminder that “ is your current monthly saving enough to save for adequate retirement fund, considering essential fund is required for kid’s future education and marriage expenses?”
When an individual isn’t exhibiting a healthy behaviour, the question serves as a reminder of their choices. Researchers found that questioning effectiv…