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Relationship Trouble? Don't worry; identify these signs in your relationship to seek marriage counselling on time.

When you face troubles in your marriage or in a relationship it not only you but your partner too suffers, day after day. Some of you may accept it as your fate or live with it to believe that your partner has simply changed over the time or the situation has changed and or your marital life is drying up.
But that is not true, differences in relationships generally arise from communication gap, lifestyle changes , situational immaturity and miss-understanding and that sometimes gets snowballed into an intense fight, accusing & insulting each other and gradually distancing themselves from their partner. Delhi’s eminent Marriage CounsellorShivani Misri Sadhoo say that instead of keep on trying yourself & failing and accepting your defeat and suffering, couples should bring an expert into their relationship.
Marriage counselling is a type of therapy where a married couple works with a therapist to identify, discuss, explore and hopefully resolve different issues happening within a …

Should we hide our feelings from our children?

When times get tough and we're distressed, angry or sad, we may think that the best option is to put up a happy face around our kids in spite of our feelings. Why worry or frighten them, right? Even our culture and parental tradition (sometimes) has taught us never to discipline kids in anger and we should talk to our children in a way that prioritizes their well-being and self-esteem.   Do you know no matter how hard we try to hide our emotions, kids always understand their parent’s feelings, if not completely but they can figure out something is wrong. A recent study of emotional regulation in parent suggested that when a parent holds back or disguises their negative feelings, there are negative consequences for the parent-child relationship. A child might build and or believe that his/her parents hide information from them and there could be a decrease of trust between the child and parents and that surfaces when the child reach especially his/her teens. Secondly, when we pretend…

Three secrets to effective leadership

Why is that only a few employees climb organizational hierarchy, all the way to the top and most don’t? What are those things that ones who rise to the top tend to do differently than others? Psychologist & Corporate Counselor Shivani MisriSadhoo shares three behaviors that characterize excellent leaders.

Leader should avoid psychological traps:
One temptation that some leaders face is the desire to show social dominance and intelligence as much as possible. Extroversion, confidence, higher IQ, foresight are traits of good leaders, but these are not traits to be always displayed, especially in team discussions, where receiving subordinate’s views and opinion matters.
If the leader falls into the psychological trap to display superiority , he/she may stop his/her team to open up and express freely and that might harm the organization as workers may not be willing to come up with innovative ideas and creative thoughts.
Leader builds effective team
One of the biggest challenges that organ…

Important Life Skills to Keep Peace in Relationships

Differences with your partner do not cause problems in a relationship, it is your way of handling these differences that cause or starts the relationship difficulties. When our ego gets in the way, we can easily say or do things that threaten the peace of our relationship and increase the level of relationship stress. Psychologist & Marriage Counsellor Shivani MisriSadhoo shares some important life skills to keep peace in relationships.
1. Start developing being more aware of your role in your relationship: become more observant about your thoughts, emotions, need and reasons for getting angry with your partner. One way to develop self-awareness skills in to ask self-questions like:
a. What do you want from this argument? b. If you feel irritated or angry then ask yourself your source of anger Is it your ego that your was hurt because your partner didn't listen to you? could it be possible that you are missing to evaluate or understand your partner's point of view and just st…

Are you addicted to your smartphone?

Most of us find it difficult to function without our phones by our side. In fact, a survey has found out that approximately 72% of smartphone users rarely go five feet away from their handset at any time of the day. This is what is known as nomophobia (fear of being out of mobile phone contact); the fear that being away from your phone somehow disconnects you from the world.
Our growing dependency on smartphones and its addiction is slowly and silently altering our relationships, the way we interact with others and most importantly it's making us prone to psychological and physical diseases.
Staring at a screen, for instance, prevents the brain from releasing something that is called melatonin, our natural sleep chemical. As a result, our bodies don't register that we are tired. Overuse of smartphones, therefore, leads to interrupted sleeping patterns and means that we do not function as well throughout the day, affecting our abilities to work.
What are the Symptoms of Nomophobia…

How to Build a Better Bedtime Habit For Kids?

In today’s lifestyle with parents working longer hours and more extended after-school activities, developing a good sleeping habit among kids is not easy and easy task, especially with 24x7 cartoon channels and easily assessable games on tabs and smartphones, putting kids on sleep is becoming really tough. According to psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo, today’s kids sleep less than the kids from 80’s and our children are at risk of developing a weaker immune system, obesity and poor emotional health in future due to their poor sleeping habits. Here are some tips that parents should follow to build better bedtime habits for kids.
1. Try to read a bedtime story to your child every day: Try to read a bedtime story to your child every day: You already know reading out to kids helps them learn, but hearing storybooks is a great way for kids to head off to dreamland. According to research, reading printed books appears to be most relaxing.
2. Never let your child to play mobile or PlayStation…

Adequate Sleep is the key to your child’s academic success and strengthen his/her immune system

How many hours your child should sleep?, is it adequate for your child and what price he/she may pay if its’ not met? Today Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo answers these questions:-

What is the ideal sleeping hour for your child?
According to the National Sleep Foundation, newborns should sleep between 12 to 18 hours, out of every 24 (every new parent hopes), with a gradual reduction to 12 to 14 hours for toddlers ages 1 to 3; 11 to 13 hours for pre-schoolers 3 to 5; and 10 to 11 hours(that's right) for school children ages 5 to 10.

Why is adequate sleep necessary?
1. Sleep increases a child's attention span.  Children who sleep less than ten hours before the age of three years has higher chances of developing hyperactivity and impulsivity problems by the age of six. In other words, by the age of 6, sleep deprivation can develop the tendency to irritability in the kids and they get distracted even though they don't have any issues like ADHD.
2. Sleep boosts learning. 
You may h…

Are you in the relationship with the Right Person? Here's few Ways to Find Out.

From sceptical friends to protective parents and relatives, newly committed couples commonly face a basic question, “how do know if this guy or girl is right for you?”
Most of the couples don’t pay much attention to this question and the common reply they give is "I just love her / him and we both love each other intensely”, “he / she is professionally stable or will get stable soon” or simply give general answers like, “we don’t know when we fell in love with each other and he/she cares for me intensely”. There is nothing wrong with these answers, but none of them articulates a person’s true reason for being in a relationship with a person since all of these answers are subjected to time.
With time person’s priorities in life, responsibilities, financial conditions, desires and maturity level changes, they can’t devote same time to the relationship or can take care of their partners, like they do in the early stage of relationships. Marriage Counsellor and Pre-Marital Coach, Shi…

4 Psychological Hacks to be More Productive

Everyone loves to get appreciations and rewards for their work and an organization values its employees who performances and yields productivity. Yet when we are told to be more productive, our mind generally shoots images that tell us to do self-sacrifices or self-regulations, like “I should be staying late in the office”, “I should come on Saturdays to work”, “must finish client emails from home” etc.
To excel at workplace, Psychologist and Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo shares simple mind techniques that'll have us being productive before we know it. We just need to keep in mind that everybody works differently, so while one method may strike productivity gold, another might not. So we should check ourselves what works best for us.

1. Build the habit of strongly instructing yourself
Guide yourself by having aninstructional conversation to increase your focus and get away from distractions. This simple self-help method can help you solve problems calmly and in a more focused manne…

Simple but effective moves to Strengthen Focus

The ability to stay concentrated on what you’re doing and ignore the distractions counts among the most basic skills in anyone’s mental toolbox. If one trains self to enhance their mental focus level, huge possibilities can open in their education, career, family and management capabilities.
But first check your strength of focus: suppose you are writing your work report or a normal priority email, suddenly your Facebook Messenger blinks telling you that you have received a new chat message. What do you do? Stay with that urgent task? Or check that message?
The answer to this dilemma will be determined by certain neurons in your prefrontal cortex of the brain, one of the cortex’s jobs is settling such conflicts, and managing our priorities in general.
Do you know that there are simple but way effective moves to strengthen our focus? The ability to focus is like a mental muscle. The more we work it out, the stronger it becomes, just like how the body strength increases when you go to a re…

HOW LOW SELF-ESTEEM DESTROY A ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP?

People who suffer from low self-esteem can’t imagine they are not good enough or worthy, then how can they get convinced a loving partner can choose them?
Low self-esteem for long has stopped people from finding the right life partner or it has sabotaged romantic relationships and put relationships repeatedly to test or even destroyed wonderful couples. Unfortunately, in most cases, none of the partners ever realise the real reason for the decline in the health of their bond. Relationship Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo tells us how low self-esteem can destroy romantic relationships and a few tips to identify them.
1.Guard them: Poor self-esteem can make people hesitant and afraid of allowing themselves to be loved with fear that they may be abandon by their partner. This attitude if over practiced, won’t allow the person to find the right person in their life and it may also stop them to open up in their relationship when required.
2.Develops insecurity: When one suffers from low self-e…

Do You Know How to Say Sorry?

In any kind of relationship, one cannot be always or be always wrong. The art of maintaining a beautiful relationship is not pointing or defending who is right or wrong but it’s also the ability to judge your partner’s feedbacks, evaluate your actions and to apologise if you are wrong.
There is a common perception if you need to apologise, you have to say sorry. Relationship and Marriage Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo says that apologising or saying sorry has to be more than just the lip service. What the offended person really wants from you is the different behaviour. Your words of apology are the promise of change; supporting actions are the proof of the same. Excuses and counter attacks can make matters worse, leaving the offended party feeling invalidated and further alienated.
If you care about the feelings of those with whom you have a relationship, want to keep that relationship, and would like to enhance your own feelings of self-worth, you must sooner, learn the art of apolog…