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Here Are Some Effective Tips to Make the Perfect Impression in this Diwali Party

This Diwali when you attend the party, make sure that it’s not only your dress but your personality to make an impression in the minds of your family, friends, neighbours and colleagues. Psychologist and Marriage Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo, shares some important personality tips of making an effective impression in a party.
·Be yourself Personality of every individual is unique and varies from person to person. A lot of times people tend to copy the personality and behaviour of famous people or of the people who inspired or impressed them in the past.
Remember you cannot acquire a personality; you can only develop the personality that you already have. For example, if you are a short tempered person you can control that over time, but you cannot change and become a very calm person, at least not overnight . So do not try to acquire a fake personality. Try to develop the personality that you already have. Brush up the skills and make your personality more pleasing. This will help yo…

Use This Simple Trick to Transform Conflict into Connection

Friction and annoyances are inevitable in every relationship. There are differences between partner’s opinions, personalities, hopes, and expectations. This is true for every couple, even for the happiest ones.
In fact, you may be surprised to learn that happy couples have just as many differences and circumstantial hardships as unhappy couples, yet they are thriving anyway. Why? One thing that happy couples often have that struggling couples don’t, is humour.
If laughter is lacking in your relationship, you are missing out on a potentially great part of your relationship, suggests marriage counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo. She says humour is no rocket science and we all are blessed with some level of humour that we can express and enjoy in our life – all it takes to express our funny bones is NOT TO TAKE OURSELVES TOO SERIOUSLY. Today she shares some important rules on how to bring humour in marriage and to transform conflicts into connections.


1.) Don’t take yourself too seriously
A lot …

How To Hack Success with Good Body Language?

Throughout the day people around us observe the way we move our eyes, shake our hands, the way we walk, upheld our head and this information , consciously and unconsciously helps them to discover a part of our personality , especially at the workplace. 
Psychologist and Relationship Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo shares that body language is one of the vital factors that determine a person’s success both in professional and personal life. Today she shares some vital points;
1. Always try to keep your posture relaxed: Remember to stand up straight, but don’t tighten up so much that you look rigid and nervous. If you’re a natural sloucher, make sure to check your posture sporadically and straighten up as needed. A hunched back can make you look unsure of yourself, or even if you feel the other person doesn’t care too much about the situation. Standing or sitting up straight and tall can not only make you appear more confident, but it can actually make you feel more confident as well!

2. M…

Marriage Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo's expect comment on Hindustan Times Article

Relationship counselling: Before a gap turns into a gulf
Vijeta (29)* and Vishal (27)* married nearly four months ago after dating for more than two years. They call themselves a happy couple, but it took a great deal of effort for them to get there. Almost one year into the relationship, they had trouble bonding. Each carried the baggage of past relationships and though they were committed to getting married, it was hard to accommodate the other’s history. “We wanted to improve our relationship and decided to meet a counsellor,” says Vijeta, a marketing professional. The sessions were held once a week and lasted for nearly an hour. The couple was given questionnaires designed to reflect their personality and thoughts. The replies helped the counsellor understand their individual strengths and weaknesses and offer suggestions accordingly. It helped a great deal, they say. “We could understand ourselves and our insecurities. Once I realised that I was jealous because she was still in t…

Questions You Must Ask Before Getting Married

When it comes to marriage don’t rush to the decision nor do just keep nodding your head with a smile to your future spouse and in-laws, says marriage counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo.  She says it’s very important that both the girl and the boy MUST ask  right questions before getting married. 
Psychologist and relationship expert Shivani also says that due to shyness, lack of interest or a desire to preserve romantic mystery; many couples do not ask each other the difficult questions that can help build a strong foundation for a stable marriage .
Hence if you don’t deal with an issue before marriage, you deal with it while you’re married, it can be hard to keep secrets decades after decades, and reticence before the wedding can lead to disappointments down the line. The following questions, intimate and sometimes awkward, are designed to spark honest discussions and possibly give couples a chance to spill secrets before it’s too late.

1. Did your family fight or calmly discuss issues or s…

Do you know the 5 languages of Love?

Is it possible to have a language for love? Yes, said world’s prominent marital counselor Dr. Gary Chapman. There are 5 love languages or five universal ways in which we express and interpret love. Although there are five types of love languages but most people lean heavily on one or two and are usually drawn to people who "speak" a different love language than themselves. Below are the 5 types of love languages that can be applied to all the relationships in your life.
1.Words of affirmation Some people value what they hear, like "I love you" or other words of appreciation or compliments. These individuals feel that words have more weight than actions and would rather hear "the reasons behind that love" versus any other expression of love. This also means that if something negative or insulting is said to one of these individuals, it will not be easily forgiven.
2.  Quality time For some people spending time with loved ones is their preferred love language. …

Do You Still Date? – Why is Dating important after marriage is essential?

When Marriage Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo asks couples, when was the last time they have had a date? The common answer she receives is, “we are already married, why should we date” or they refer their dating activity as family outings or they say we do not time for ourselves.  First of all, every married couple must understand that dating is an essential process to rejuvenate marital relationship in today’s fast-moving and stressful life. Secondly, couples must understand that ·A date is not going to McDonald’s with the children in a mall. ·Kids are not a part of date after marriage. ·Shopping in the departmental store and buying home essentials or grocery is not dating.
Going out with your spouse SOLELY to spend quality time together and nothing else, this concept today is a highly ignored practice in Indian society. Generally, Indian married couples date only in the first 1 or 2 years of their marriage, till they don’t have kids. Many couples may argue that they have not witnessed the…

Ways Technology Harm Your Relationship

You may be a student, housewife, fast moving corporate or a serviceman but you will agree that in the last one decade your relationship with technology has changed drastically, most of you may be reaching out for your smartphone as soon as you wake up to check emails, birthday notifications, and text messages. The rest of the day too, you’re constantly on a PC, tablet, mobile device or on a laptop for personal or professional use. You’re messaging, browsing, friending, tweeting and/ or sharing.
It’s great that we today have the advanced technology that helps us to connect with people across the globe instantly, but there’s also a sense of disconnection to technology advancement. The psychology community believes that the rapidly changing technology and growing human dependence & addiction with it, will possibly going to create emotional, psychological and relationship issues in the coming days.  Psychologist and Relationship CounsellorShivani Misri Sadhoo today shares how technolog…