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Habits That Kill Your Confidence

Have you ever wondered about a situation in life– when you went to an important meeting or interview, well-prepared, still you fail to give a confident handshake or a smile, conveying an unnecessary bad impression? These incidences may indicate that you are suffering from lack of self-confidence, deep down in your surface.
Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo shares that the best way to develop self-confidence is not to act confident or to depend on mental diversions but to get rid of the unhealthy mental habits. Here are some unknown habits that can kill self-confidence:-
Being Perfectionist
Being perfectionist can act both for and against the person. It can improve life skills like ability to scrutinize, revise and to maintain mental alertness for a task on the same time too much of perfectionism can develop conditional self-esteem.  People tend to like themselves when they do well and they forget that nobody can do well, all the time.
To combat perfectionism, person should try to get rid …

Do you know stress can be both good and bad? An insight by Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo

We all know stress kills a person by causing diabetes, high blood pressure, heart problems, anxietydepression so on and so forth. But do you know there is Good Stress too, which offers you opportunities to grow in life?
Today Shivani Misri Sadhoo, an eminent psychologist in South Delhi, tells you the differences between good and bad stress and will share how to identify them.
First, what is Bad Stress?
Bad stress is associated with a person’s perception that he or she has no control over their worries or destiny.  Since such a stress is perceived with no solution, they become chronic and lead to all kind of deadly diseases. This stress can be named as bad, chronic, never-ending or always hanging on the shoulders stress.
What is Good Stress?
Good stress is associated with a situation where a person worries along with “knowing the solution” and puts sincere efforts to solve the problem. Such a stress generally expands the life skill and professional possibilities of the person. Generally g…

How to know if you’re just upset or you are suffering from depression?- signs of depression you should check

Sooner or later, everyone passes through sadness, loneliness or grief, when the person goes through a difficult phase of life. Most of the time the person continues to function, knowing in time they will feel better and things would be fine. But what if the feelings of sadness linger on, interferes with work, sleep, relationships?
How do know ON TIME that you are suffering more than sadness? Today Shivani Misri Sadhoo, an eminent psychologist in Delhi, shares some early signs of depression:-
Your feeling of helplessness and hopelessness continues. When your feeling of helplessness and hopelessness continues for a longer period of time and no matter how hard you try (outing, reading, eating) it comes back. It’s a sign that you should immediately check with a counselling psychologist or a mental health expert.Your body weight changes. When you witness a significant weight loss or weight gain —a change of more than 5% of body weight in a month.Your sleeping pattern changes: when you are wa…

Effective Parent to Child Communication Tips - By Child Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo

An effective parent to child conversation can shape the child’s listening, speaking and understanding capabilities whereas an inefficient communication can lead to numerous issues in later years likes like–not listening to their parents, emotional and psychological distancing from parents, teenage problems etc. The way parents speak to their kids and to the people around them show the kids how they should talk back to their parents.
Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo in her practice has found parents generally use three different ways to communicate with their kids. The first one is in an aggressive way. These parents frequently yell and convey punishments. Their children respond in many different ways, mainly they feel fearful, yell back and ignore their parents’ constant orders. The second form of parent and child communication commonly seen is a passive form. These parents mutter soft, cautious words and tones to their kids. Unfortunately these parents are so passive that sometimes w…

Secret behind Staying Always Happy

All of us experience negative thoughts from time to time and the way we manage our negative attitudes can make all the difference between winning, gaining love & self-confidence, succeeding in our profession life, vs. fear, defeat and suffering victim-hood.
Sometimes negative attitude towards life slips in our conscience without our notice and by the time we realize it, we may lose too many precious things. Today Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo shares help us identify some common negative attitudes that make our life unhappy.
Avoid Negative Assumptions
The most common form of holding a negative attitude towards life is to presume negative conclusions from unpleasant situations. One might look at a heavy traffic jam, crowded metro, water logging on or bad roads as automatic negative experiences.
But remember there’s nothing inherently positive or negative about traffic, weather, or a crowded metro. These are circumstances beyond your control and they will not get affected with your n…

Helpful Tips to understand Child Psychology

Understanding psychology of a child is the key to decoding your child’s wants and needs and help them grow positively. There are generally many instances when your opinion as a mother or a father tends to differ from that of your child. This can often result in an unpleasant situation, negative reactions from parents can develop negative attitude in children that may surface during their teenage. For instance simply saying NO to cookies can create a room for misinterpretation in child’s mind that my mother always says  NO to things that I like to have.
Understanding a Child’s psychology or mind will not only make you a better parents but will also help you develop a strong bond with your child in today’s challenging social environment – like exposure to all kinds of information from TV & internet, academic pressure, peer pressure etc. Today child psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo shares some helpful tips to understand child psychology.

1. Observation One of the ways you can understan…

Why does married man register on online dating sites and pretend to be single?

Is it all about looking for sex outside marriage or these men are suffering from bad marriages? The answers are more complex says marriage counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo; today she shares reasons why men pretend to be single and search dating sites.
1.       Immaturity: Many men build unreasonable expectations from their marital life. They believe their spouse should meet every sexual and emotional need throughout 24 X 7. In their self-focused way, they do not understand that their wife may be juggling with multiple priorities kids, in-laws, office, home, finances in addition to him and the relationship. When this spouse inevitably fails him (in his view), he feels entitled to seek intimate attention elsewhere.
2.       Insecurity:  many men hold deep down insecurity about themselves, like “I am too fat”, “I am too short”, “I am not physically attractive” etc. Some of these men cultivate believes that flirtation, extramarital sex, lying or manipulating women are signs of power – these …

The Secret Behind Infidelity

Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo today finds the most common cause of couples seeking relationship counselling is Infidelity. Infidelity can create havoc in a beautiful relationship- it commonly signifies a crisis in a marital or in a pre-marital relationship, some can repair the damage done; turn an infidelity into an opportunity for growth and reconnection. And some can’t, the loss of trust being irreparable for one, the continued anger and blame becomes intolerable for the other So what leads to affairs?
1. EmotionalGenerally the most commonly cause of infidelity is a sense of emotional disconnection from a partner. The person committing the infidelity will often describe having felt unappreciated, lonely, and sad. These emotions can often lead to the secondary feelings of anger and resentment. Emotional roots can lead to affairs both emotional and physical in nature. An emotional affair may start off looking like a friendship, but over the time, the level of intimacy increases and …